Is this right?!

Guest101

solidpro wrote: »

So on the 3 mornings every fortnight there is school and they wake up in our house, I am not expected to ensure they get to school, and ensure they have a uniform? You're expecting the PWC to give me 3 spare uniforms one morning for the next three mornings I'm taking them to school? It just doesn't work that way. I have to buy uniforms and if you think most mothers who have bothered to go to the CSA are then going to give it back to the other parent to go buy uniforms then you've living in a dream world.

3 spare uniforms? No. one uniform is more than sufficient for 3 days.

solidpro

Its been explained right there for you.

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In possibly the briefest, most basic, and most ambiguous terms possible! It hardly says what you said and that at least it's up to PWC to provide school uniforms? That would help a bit! that would give me something to refer her to. I've got THAT??

Guest101

solidpro wrote: »

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In possibly the briefest, most basic, and most ambiguous terms possible! It hardly says what you said and that at least it's up to PWC to provide school uniforms? That would help a bit! that would give me something to refer her to. I've got THAT??

The CMS/CSA have said you should be paying NOTHING else apart from the agreed payment. How less ambiguous can you get?

solidpro

3 spare uniforms? No. one uniform is more than sufficient for 3 days.

When they come home covered in mud, or lost their jumper, or covered in paint, you expect me to send them back in a school uniform covered in dry paint, or freezing cold because they lost their jumper or coat? That's not responsible.

solidpro

The CMS/CSA have said you should be paying NOTHING else apart from the agreed payment. How less ambiguous can you get?

In a phonecall. difficult me to hand that to her on a piece of paper, or paste it into an email.

Guest101

solidpro wrote: »

When they come home covered in mud, or lost their jumper, or covered in paint, you expect me to send them back in a school uniform covered in dry paint, or freezing cold because they lost their jumper or coat? That's not responsible.

I presume you have a washing machine?


And we'll agree to disagree regarding the responsible thing (as I don't know ages) but I can tell you that my kids get taught to be responsible for their belongings. If they lose something they pay for it.

Guest101

solidpro wrote: »

In a phonecall. difficult me to hand that to her on a piece of paper, or paste it into an email.

Like your ex would listen to that?

solidpro

Clearly that's not your situation, but that is not a problem with the system, but rather a problem with your specific ex.

I can't fix my ex. But I would expect a government project which gets a lot of money from the users and the government be able to be slightly more granular to support parents who have a shared care order, and not throw money at unreasonable parents.

solidpro

I presume you have a washing machine?

I do. It doesn't magically create lost coats and jumpers, or make ruined school clothes new again.

When they come home covered in paint or damaged, I have to put a new one on. I can't send them to school naked, beg my ex for some CSA money back, or go to her house every night and collect a new uniform.

They're 4 and 6. So all of the above is frequent and I can't make them pay.

solidpro

Like your ex would listen to that?

It would at least show I've done some research rather than just telling her to stick it and expecting her to bother to ring them.