Elite 11+ shopping and chat thread

mhoc

Any suggestions from the Elite school of life management please.
There is someone I know who is totally and utterly convinced that I hate their partner. I have never met their partner and I am never likely to – they don’t even live anywhere close and apart from maybe 1 or 2 occasions a year we would never even be in the same county. I know nothing whatsoever about their partner (apart from what they look like from a bit of FB snooping). A long while ago I have tried to ask indirect questions about the partner but I was always blanked - I just took it that it was a new relationship and therefore private. I realised now that even at that early stage he thought that I hated the partner so I was never going to be given any information about them.
Person A also goes around complaining about me to mutual acquaintances and my hatred of their partner and I get portrayed as some sort of evil and horrible person.
Yes it’s all a bit juvenile (and bordering on deranged) , I honestly could not care less about either of them, I long ago stepped back, lost interest, got on with my own life. But the bad mouthing is a bit annoying – it puts mutual friends in a bit of a spot as they feel like piggies in the middle. They tread on egg shells around me but I have the hide of a rhinoceroses – just really glad the topic does not come up very often as it became tedious long ago.
It feels a bit like I’ve been here before. My m-i-l really hated me without any cause or justification. I put up with it for decades because the kids really loved her. I had to just settle for her loathing and contempt for the sake of a quiet life. Eventually she was diagnosed and she became utterly dependant on us for those last 12 weeks. Only then did she see the light, after putting me through this misery for years, did she realise I was not the horrible person she always saw me as.
So I am not going down this road again, trying to pacify someone who thinks ill of me. If I am hated, so what, I am moving onwards. I have a lot of life to live and love to give and I am not wasting my energies on anyone with a distorted view of me with no basis in any truth.
Has anyone else had a similar situation through their life and how did you tackle it?

Serendipitious

Snap-ant wrote: »

braveheart60uk

Not sure if already posted here, not had time to read back.

T has new offers starting tomorrow, some ocean spray 1 litre drinks reduced to 67p, so with 50p MOC from their mag they will be 17p each.

HTH

***** Update*****
I should have checked 1st, some BADLY compare to Sada at £1.39, so buy with birds balls and do not Brand Match shop them

braveheart60uk

***** Update*****
I should have checked 1st, some BADLY compare to Sada at £1.39, so buy with birds balls and do not Brand Match shop them

locarr

mhoc wrote: »

Any suggestions from the Elite school of life management please.
There is someone I know who is totally and utterly convinced that I hate their partner. I have never met their partner and I am never likely to – they don’t even live anywhere close and apart from maybe 1 or 2 occasions a year we would never even be in the same county. I know nothing whatsoever about their partner (apart from what they look like from a bit of FB snooping). A long while ago I have tried to ask indirect questions about the partner but I was always blanked - I just took it that it was a new relationship and therefore private. I realised now that even at that early stage he thought that I hated the partner so I was never going to be given any information about them.
Person A also goes around complaining about me to mutual acquaintances and my hatred of their partner and I get portrayed as some sort of evil and horrible person.
Yes it’s all a bit juvenile (and bordering on deranged) , I honestly could not care less about either of them, I long ago stepped back, lost interest, got on with my own life. But the bad mouthing is a bit annoying – it puts mutual friends in a bit of a spot as they feel like piggies in the middle. They tread on egg shells around me but I have the hide of a rhinoceroses – just really glad the topic does not come up very often as it became tedious long ago.
It feels a bit like I’ve been here before. My m-i-l really hated me without any cause or justification. I put up with it for decades because the kids really loved her. I had to just settle for her loathing and contempt for the sake of a quiet life. Eventually she was diagnosed and she became utterly dependant on us for those last 12 weeks. Only then did she see the light, after putting me through this misery for years, did she realise I was not the horrible person she always saw me as.
So I am not going down this road again, trying to pacify someone who thinks ill of me. If I am hated, so what, I am moving onwards. I have a lot of life to live and love to give and I am not wasting my energies on anyone with a distorted view of me with no basis in any truth.
Has anyone else had a similar situation through their life and how did you tackle it?

Tell mutual friends exactly what you have told us in the 1st two paragraphs, I would have nothing to do with person A from here on in, they are not a friend, full stop.

Picasso7

bubbs wrote: »

Then polish them so they are ready for the morning

That, of course, goes without saying! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

pippo

tbw wrote: »

Don't forget to dust all the table tops !

B@gger, I knew I'd miss something...
It will be a miracle if I can actually find my table top!!
It is currently covered with the jars of jelly and chutney I made, material, string and card as I try to make those little 'caps' for the jars and nice labels.
This 'homemade' for Christmas was supposed to save me money and help in the general decluttering, I seem to have spent a small fortune on jars and am quickly using up the printer ink!

Splodge12

Thanks to the OP (Bubbs I think). I picked up my loreal lipstick and also received the free gift of eyeshadow. Sorry for those that didn't manage to get the free gift.

Picasso7

mhoc wrote: »

Any suggestions from the Elite school of life management please.
There is someone I know who is totally and utterly convinced that I hate their partner. I have never met their partner and I am never likely to – they don’t even live anywhere close and apart from maybe 1 or 2 occasions a year we would never even be in the same county. I know nothing whatsoever about their partner (apart from what they look like from a bit of FB snooping). A long while ago I have tried to ask indirect questions about the partner but I was always blanked - I just took it that it was a new relationship and therefore private. I realised now that even at that early stage he thought that I hated the partner so I was never going to be given any information about them.
Person A also goes around complaining about me to mutual acquaintances and my hatred of their partner and I get portrayed as some sort of evil and horrible person.
Yes it’s all a bit juvenile (and bordering on deranged) , I honestly could not care less about either of them, I long ago stepped back, lost interest, got on with my own life. But the bad mouthing is a bit annoying – it puts mutual friends in a bit of a spot as they feel like piggies in the middle. They tread on egg shells around me but I have the hide of a rhinoceroses – just really glad the topic does not come up very often as it became tedious long ago.
It feels a bit like I’ve been here before. My m-i-l really hated me without any cause or justification. I put up with it for decades because the kids really loved her. I had to just settle for her loathing and contempt for the sake of a quiet life. Eventually she was diagnosed and she became utterly dependant on us for those last 12 weeks. Only then did she see the light, after putting me through this misery for years, did she realise I was not the horrible person she always saw me as.
So I am not going down this road again, trying to pacify someone who thinks ill of me. If I am hated, so what, I am moving onwards. I have a lot of life to live and love to give and I am not wasting my energies on anyone with a distorted view of me with no basis in any truth.
Has anyone else had a similar situation through their life and how did you tackle it?

I've not had anything quite like that but have had the experience of someone who said I reminded her of her (evil!) sister and treated me as if I was said sister. I just kept out of the way. Life is too short. I am very sorry this person upsets you so much, it's not easy.

cjj_2

Robbie's on bubbs xx