Buying a house when the seller is picky!!

Doozergirl

agrinnall wrote: »

Seems a bit judgmental, and provably wrong, because I did exactly this. Of course, the circumstances in this instance mean it probably is less likely to happen, but I'd rather take people what people (not Estate Agents obviously ) say at face value that assume they are lying to me.

10 years on this board and too many purchases behind me. I'd have the deposit for another house if I'd been paid for each time someone said they'd rent and didn't.

Perhaps my words were a bit harsh. I certainly didn't mean it was a lie, I just know that people say stuff while they're insecure to get a sale, but when the sale comes they are more secure and things start to be on their terms. The practicalities of renting become stark when the sale is in the bag.

We moved to rented ourselves once and I would NEVER do it again.

csgohan4

agrinnall wrote: »

Seems a bit judgmental, and provably wrong, because I did exactly this. Of course, the circumstances in this instance mean it probably is less likely to happen, but I'd rather take people what people (not Estate Agents obviously ) say at face value that assume they are lying to me.

bottom line is you got more to lose, for that I would rather not take chances on what someone else says and therefore have no power over.

kilby_007

Doozergirl wrote: »

Don't even consider them renting. They won't do it. People say things without really meaning it - if the husband is already not keen, it isn't going to happen. Moving house once is bad. Twice with a young baby is a nightmare.

Not necessarily true. We sold our house in November and we told our buyers that if we hadn't followed through and exchanged contracts on another property by the end of Feb we would move into rented anyway so we told them to start their searches. They got everything underway and were ready to exchange in Feb but we still hadn't found anything suitable (not for lack of trying!) so we stuck to our word and now we're renting until something else comes up. We have a baby girl too, and yes it's a pain having to move, but not being in a chain takes the pressure off all parties and puts you in a better purchasing position so I'm glad we're moving twice and would do it again next time.

Doozergirl

kilby_007 wrote: »

Not necessarily true. We sold our house in November and we told our buyers that if we hadn't followed through and exchanged contracts on another property by the end of Feb we would move into rented anyway so we told them to start their searches. They got everything underway and were ready to exchange in Feb but we still hadn't found anything suitable (not for lack of trying!) so we stuck to our word and now we're renting until something else comes up. We have a baby girl too, and yes it's a pain having to move, but not being in a chain takes the pressure off all parties and puts you in a better purchasing position so I'm glad we're moving twice and would do it again next time.

Congratualtions. It sounds like younwere quite clear about it. When we did, we were clear too. We are the exception.

Saying it when your husband is actively resisting, as in the OP, is not the best time for a buyer to take you on your word.

As I've said, I've read far too many threads on this board over 11 years to wonder what normally happens. No way would I invest in searches and surveys until the vendor is clear on their own future.

marksoton

Whilst virtually everything posted on here is by definition anecdotal in this case it really matters.

She's admitted she's picky.

Claimed she'll go into rental ( I don't imagine that'll go well if she is as above)

Her husband is not keen.

Has a sub 1 year old.

Given the information you have i'd be continuing my search.

I can't remember a thread that screamed alarm bells so much....

steph2901

Hopefully they find somewhere or stick to their word about renting.

We've just sold ours and can't find anywhere we like, so have decided to rent for a while, at least we'll be in a good position if we do find anything then.

marksoton

steph2901 wrote: »

Hopefully they find somewhere or stick to their word about renting.

Therein lies the problem.

A flaky seller is as bad as a flaky buyer IMO.

firebird082

Carry on looking - assume the worst and that you are still looking *properly*, and you might be pleasantly suprised if they do find somewhere quicker than expected

getmore4less

Book the odd night/weekend away anywhere get out of the in laws sight occasionally or even offer to send them away.

cheaper than renting somewhere.

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On the house you like just play the waiting game and keep them on side before spending money, Keep looking chances are you will fall in love with something else.

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Jessy1990

Thankyou everyone!

I text the seller today thanking in accepting our offer and that no money will leave us until they are apart of a chain so to therefore keep us updated. No reply as of yet.

We will continue to look for something else but we are both feeling really deflated about the whole situation. Both becoming ill and run down, we just didn't think this experience would be so draining.

I think I'll book a surprise weekend for the both of us (thank you for that suggestion, genuis )

I'll keep in contact with the EA to keep some pressure on the sellers for a while.

Fingers crossed for us