Father places Charging Order on My Property

Mossfarr

I understand the way your Father is thinking, my friends Mum is exactly the same - and my Mum too in some respects. I honestly believe (some) elderly people become very self obsessed. It isn't selfishness, they can also be very generous but they do expect everyones lives to revolve around them and only view every situation from their own perspective. Since she became a widow my friends Mum expects her son to be permanently on call and she tells everyone that he neglects her terribly. Absolutely not true and very frustrating.
I can't offer any more advice than already given, but just be aware that other people who care for elderly parents will understand what is happening.
I hope you get things sorted soon OP.

Caroline_a

I moved in with my dad and he was exactly the same for the last few years of his life. I have always had a busy life outside work and before I moved in he was always interested in what I did outside work. However, when I moved in, the first evening when I was out after work - I was coaching youngsters - he was totally shocked that I was continuing with my hobby and not sitting in and watching tv with him.

He grew very resentful in the last 6 months of his life and if I went out anywhere out of the ordinary (show, dinner, etc) he would press his panic alarm and 'fall'. Strangely he was never hurt by these falls and was often back sitting in his chair when I'd dashed home.

OP, you have my sympathy, it's a tough situation.

Jhoney_2

OPs dad seems very agile as he slipped a letter under her door at some point.

Do you currently rent a groung floor flat atm? who is looking after him now?

It's a tough one perhaps, but going by what's been posted, dad seems quite fit and of sound mind.