husbands ex wifes will!!! help

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veryskint wrote: »

Idont know if this is in the right place but here goes. Eighteen months ago my husbandsex wife commited suicide, and we now have custody of their 2 children (10 and 11years) as well as another 2 children. His ex wife made out a will stating that her mum and brother be executors of the will, until the children reach 21, it also states that it can be used before then for their dwelling place and for their
upbringing,education etc. We have approached the executors about being able to have some at some point as we are really struggling and they have flatly refused , even though we would have to pay the children it back at some point. What maddens us is that their grandma and uncle couldnt really give a s**t about the kids especially the uncle as he acts as though the kids dont exist.
Could anyone help us as to which direction to go in as we really cant afford to drag this through the courts as we are really skint Any help would be appreciated. Thankyou.

Hi skint

just thought about you getting cash from other areas ....have you applied for all the benefits you are entitled to ? the ones I can think of off the top of my head being

CHILD BENEFIT
WORKING TAX CREDIT
CHILD TAX CREDIT

there may be others in your situation also but you would definately get more of the above.

amy

well you might think this is bad i don't mean it to be but surely they expect you to explain how you'll only use the money for the 2 children not your other 2 or you 2 as a couple also think its going a bit far well imagine if the mother had rented house and debts no money no inheritance for the children then you still would have had to take on the children and fund them yourselves its very hard i know but the inheritance is a bonus so don't let it cause problems between your families the children will be put in a very arkward situation .. i hope something works out for you.:o

veryskint_3

amy wrote: »

well you might think this is bad i don't mean it to be but surely they expect you to explain how you'll only use the money for the 2 children not your other 2 or you 2 as a couple also think its going a bit far well imagine if the mother had rented house and debts no money no inheritance for the children then you still would have had to take on the children and fund them yourselves its very hard i know but the inheritance is a bonus so don't let it cause problems between your families the children will be put in a very arkward situation .. i hope something works out for you.:o

I understand what you mean, but it really annoys me that the grandma who also has the other child can dabble(and will) into any money anyway at any time as we have been told for eg, holidays, uniforms, school trips etc and not offered us one penny or asked if we need any help, they also only have the kids because they think they have to and not exactly want to. Also when my husband got divorced he wleft the house and everything init to her and the kids (which he should have) but when this happened all the house got looted by the rest of the family including kids photos etc ,not asking us if we needed extra beds etc for the kids. Also as soon as she died her side of the family did make it awkward as they acted as though the kids didnt exist and we had to nearly beg for anyone to keep in contact with them. I hope you understand our side as well as its so bloody difficult to get up each day knowing all the problems she left us with.

amy

veryskint wrote: »

I understand what you mean, but it really annoys me that the grandma who also has the other child can dabble(and will) into any money anyway at any time as we have been told for eg, holidays, uniforms, school trips etc and not offered us one penny or asked if we need any help, they also only have the kids because they think they have to and not exactly want to. Also when my husband got divorced he wleft the house and everything init to her and the kids (which he should have) but when this happened all the house got looted by the rest of the family including kids photos etc ,not asking us if we needed extra beds etc for the kids. Also as soon as she died her side of the family did make it awkward as they acted as though the kids didnt exist and we had to nearly beg for anyone to keep in contact with them. I hope you understand our side as well as its so bloody difficult to get up each day knowing all the problems she left us with.

I can't imagine what it must be like for you and could never imagine what them kids are going through if its not bad enough that your mum and dad divorce then your mum dies you get separated from your sibling and have to move house back with your dad and his new family its a very very hard situation for you all i just hope you can all get through it but maybe someone should be able to help you as surely it isn't fair that the other child is able to benefit from the help when its needed and not the 2 you care for surely the other child's father should be providing this support if your expected too. i think you are very brave for taking these children on as well as your own and i really hope you manage to work something out:o

veryskint_3

amy wrote: »

I can't imagine what it must be like for you and could never imagine what them kids are going through if its not bad enough that your mum and dad divorce then your mum dies you get separated from your sibling and have to move house back with your dad and his new family its a very very hard situation for you all i just hope you can all get through it but maybe someone should be able to help you as surely it isn't fair that the other child is able to benefit from the help when its needed and not the 2 you care for surely the other child's father should be providing this support if your expected too. i think you are very brave for taking these children on as well as your own and i really hope you manage to work something out:o

Thankyou for your support. The other childs father IS supporting him but not through the csa (cash in hand) so they are getting help. The children were 1 and 2 years old when they divorced so really shouldnt have known much really except that their mum, (when me and their dad got together) was slagging me off no end and telling them to call me names at 1 and 2 years old!! Ironic really seeing as she was the one having the affair. But syaing that they are now in a stable environment (although loopy sometimes:rotfl: ) and are taught right from wrong and are growing up to be proud of.

quoia

I'd be inclinded to take both kids round to Grandma's or Uncle's home and leave them there. Tell them "you've got the money, (quote - for their maintenance, education and benefit) you look after the kids!"

oramgepekoe

Is there just one trust fund, or are there three ie. one per child?

veryskint_3

quoia wrote: »

I'd be inclinded to take both kids round to Grandma's or Uncle's home and leave them there. Tell them "you've got the money, (quote - for their maintenance, education and benefit) you look after the kids!"

Thought of that actually but my husband doesnt agree. I think they would soon change their mind but then again i suppose id get called all the bad mothers in the world and they would think we were just after the kids money for ourselves (mind you they do now!!!)

veryskint_3

oramgepekoe wrote: »

Is there just one trust fund, or are there three ie. one per child?

Hi we assume there are three trustfunds but not sure as they wont tell us how much and how they have invested it as its a case of "why do you want to know". Bearing in mind if you read my other post their Grandad who"rules the roost" has been found to be "fiddling" at previous employers, so off course we want to know.

oramgepekoe

Is there evidence that they have definately set the trust(s) up?