Every Little Interests The Elite

Tinyshoes

Hair dyes are ok . Bed repair in progress...

cjj_2

Thinking of LS and her dear friend xx

cjj_2

Happy Birthday tiny, whenever it may be xx

Ladyshopper

bubbs wrote: »

My sister had part of her dh's ashes made into a pendant , she had the call it was in today so went straight after work to collect it , she said its beautiful:A

That sounds lovely bubbs, I'm glad your sister is pleased with it.

LEJC, special hugs for you. :A

Thanks everyone for thinking of me today. :A

Its been an odd 24 hours. Good in lots of ways. The traffic gods were definitely smiling on me last night, I got to Manchester in 2 hours 15 minutes which is pretty impressive, traffic was a dream. Accommodation was basic, like some kind of 70's throwback with ancient furniture your granny would have, but it did the job and I was very grateful to have a bed for the night so I could split the driving over 2 days. Didn't sleep much, combination of uncomfortable bed and just thinking about today.

Got to my friend about 8.45. She was just like she always has been, only iller if that makes sense? Was so lovely to see her. Beforehand I was scared I was going to cry and be emotional, but actually we just talked away, I can just talk so easily with her (and I'm not much of a talker normally, pretty shy). She was struggling to breathe, the talking didn't help, and was also quite uncomfortable as for whatever reason she is retaining fluid and bloating up and her ankles were so swollen. She was quite fidgety to try and get comfy. She kind of nodded off a few times, which was absolutely fine.

We talked about all sorts of things. Shes at peace with whats happening, she has had 18 months to come to terms with it and kind of knew with the decline that things weren't going to be great. We were able to talk frankly, and I managed not to cry at all, just let her talk about whatever she wanted to. Shes ready to go, she doesn't feel great and has had enough, and I get that.

I wrote her a letter yesterday, telling her how grateful I was that she had come into my life and what an amazing friend she has been. I couldn't say that stuff to her as I would have got too upset, and I didn't want to. She read it, as her husband messaged me just as I got home to say she felt the same as me.

The hardest thing was leaving. I didn't want to say goodbye, but what on earth do you say to someone that is dying and you are very likely not to see again? I just gave her a massive hug and handed the letter over and told her to read it later.

I told her I could go up on Saturday or Tuesday, if she is still with us, but she actually says she hopes she will be gone by then, or at least so out of it she doesn't know whats going on. I can't imagine just waiting to die, knowing you've only likely got a few days but not knowing when. I told her it must be very strange, if it was me every time I woke up I'd be saying to myself "still here then", and she said it is very much like that.

I was there when the registrar came round, he was absolutely lovely, great bedside manner (easy on the eye too!), must be really hard as a Dr to know how to pitch it with patients that are dying, but he was spot on. She also had some reflexology whilst I was there that they come round and do which relaxed her a bit.

It sounds weird to say, but it was a really good visit. If I get to go up again, great, if not then I know that today was brilliant for both of us.

Her parents came this afternoon, I left before they got there as I didn't want to intrude. Unfortunately they haven't had nearly 18 months to come to terms with it like I have, and to be honest she wasn't really looking forward to the visit. Hopefully they didn't stay too long, I think I probably tired her out but we both agreed it was worth it.

Ladyshopper

Tinyshoes wrote: »

Thanks everyone for my birthday wishes . I am not denying or confirming anything.

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Nellie love the cake.

Happy Birthday TS. That looks lovely apart from what the heck have they done to the battenburg cake? It should be pink, not green! Looks odd! :rotfl:

Serendipitious

I found a tiny shoe!!





Happy Birthday TS xxx

Serendipitious

Ladyshopper, thanks for posting how you got on, it does sound like you had a very special visit and one you will treasure always. xx

Enterprise_1701C

Happy birthday TS, whenever it may be, not everyday you turn 21

rose, glad things are looking slightly less fraught for your father in law.

QoC, that jewellery is beautiful, would love that myself

bargainqueen8

Nellie35 wrote: »

Lovely jewellery QOC (sideways on for me)
Rose glad the situation with FIL is looking a little better today


Washing in off line, ironed and Chinese ordered for tea ready to watch football. c'mon LFC, Bargainqueen bet you will be watching. They will need to play a lot better than last wednesday:(

i`m here very nervous and apprehensive.:oits been such a mixed season i hope we can go out on a high.:)not liking some of the tv pics at mo.:(
lovely necklace QOC
Happy birthday TS hope you have had a lovely day whichever day it was/is.:)
LS.my heart goes out to you and your friend.today will be a good memory.:A

Tinyshoes

Ladyshopper so pleased you managed to see you friend for some lasting precious memories. xx

LEJC no words for you except to say will share some fizz with you anytime hun xx

Rose, I hope your family troubles sort themselves you certainly get more than your fair share. Think the same as others have said it is really important that whatever happens is what your FIL actually wants. xx