council tax should i request exemption

tightwadess

getmore4less wrote: »

Picking off one bit at a time is fine and makes a sense if they are relatively si182038592476103919mple closed tasks like dealing with council tax for two properties.

The order stuff is done is not that important as not everything can be done at once anyway.
picking something you can deal with and understand quickly is a good way to get into the mindnset for the rest.

Many dealing with estates(even just some bits of them) helpful with the grieving process and closure.

Thanks this is exactly what we are trying to do, the bits that we do understand we have made an effort to do mom has been able to sort some bits out herself and we feel like we have atleast now made a start, we are though not able to take on anything too complicated at this time, when mom is ready to hand this over to a solicitor then it will be handed over

tightwadess

Thank you very much

Yorkshireman99

SevenOfNine wrote: »

Deeply grieving people have no sequence to handling things, nor ability to properly prioritise nor understanding of what is relevant or important, their brain ceases to function like a 'normal' person temporarily & this can continue for many months.

They peck at tasks drifting aimlessly from one to another & back again. The ability to 'think' in a straight, practical line, even when that was part of their nature before just goes out the window.

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I am well aware of the need to treat people properly that seems to be something you lack. Making judgements in this way is seldom wise. I too have experienced grief on a number of occasions. My experience has been that someone like the OP is, as you rightly said, is often not capable of dealing with the necessary things. Given what the OP has said of the last couple of week my first impression was, and remains, that she urgently needs to obtain professional advice. That is not being impatient, insensitive or lacking in understanding. It is reality. This comes from many years of helping people in this sort of situation. I would also suggest that the OP and her mother need some professional counseling to help them overcome their grief. This should be available via their GPs.

SevenOfNine

Yorkshireman99 wrote: »

In another thread you have said you are too grief stricken to do anything about the estate. There are far more important things to be done with regard to the estate than this. You really need to get you priorities organized and get thing moving either your self or by handing it over to a solicitor.

Oh silly me - I had not recognised sensitivity, patience or understanding, I did not realise it looked like THAT!