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Dementia

Feral_Moon
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How do you live with Dementia?
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You can speak to your GP who can test cognitive function and may also refer you to the memory clinic. The family should be more understanding
help and advice on dealing with family with dementia is available on various websites.
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Feral_Moon wrote: »How do you live with Demebtia. How do you know when general forgetfulness becomes dementia? How do you cope when family accuse you of lying?0
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Go and see your GP anyway, because there are many conditions that mimic dementia that can be fixed, and if it isnt those and indeed is dementia, well at least the family will know and perhaps take advice and be more sympathetic,and at least you can start planning now0
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Do go see your GP as first step
I know I'm awful forgetting things, losing things, just seriously not even remembering what day of the week it is, but I know I don't have dementia, just age and menopause
However the kids were here a couple of hours and listening to them I was ready for the nursing home
Do see your GP, have the tests done, discuss your fears.
We all get a bit muddly with age, we used to call the old folk "doting" as they would get confused.
Forgetfulness is part and parcel of getting old I think
If you are being bullied into thinking you have lost the plot, that's something else altogether0 -
This is so sad. I hope your family can help with what you are going through. They should be the first one to support you.0
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Both you and your family need support to understand and treat the condition. The first step is to your GP who will make the necessary referrals. Also check out what local support groups there are.
I have experience because my mother-in-law has severe Alzheimer's and my dad currently has a milder version.0 -
Depends on the severity. My old school friend's Mother is still at home. Despite having her husband and son living at home she is still requiring carers to go in daily.
Her son doesn't know how long they will be able to cope.This is a system account and does not represent a real person. To contact the Forum Team email forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com0 -
My nan has vascular dementia and is now in a care home. She is 93 but fit as a flea.
My father has been unable to cope with his own mother no longer recognising him and has had a kind of mental breakdown and is in tears constantly. It affects everyone in different ways.
It's an awful disease.0 -
Mrs_Optimist wrote: »My nan has vascular dementia and is now in a care home. She is 93 but fit as a flea.
My father has been unable to cope with his own mother no longer recognising him and has had a kind of mental breakdown and is in tears constantly. It affects everyone in different ways.
It's an awful disease.
I agree, my darling Dad had vascular dementia and I literally lost 'him' overnight. After a terrifying phone conversation with him I rushed to his house and 24 hours later he was in a secure mental hospital and he never ever returned back home and spent his final few years safe and sound in a dedicated and secure dementia home. His was a sudden and acute progression and we spent over 4 years with him mostly believing I was his mother. At one point when the GP came out to see him in his nursing home he told the GP that he had no idea who I was but that he 'knew that he loved me'- and that statement even now makes me upset.
In some ways we were lucky in that dad rarely became lucid so he never knew what had happened . Also he never ever became violent, where as many of the residents in the home who had Alzheimer's displayed anger would quite often lash out.
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