Is tinder any good for finding a loving relationship?

PollySouthend

I've used several different sites before like match.com where you had to pay to use and met people. But not decent guys - just guys that aren't wanting any commitment and always made me feel like they are on the lookout for something better. I know these apps have the same reputation, but it looks like a better way to match with more guys and quicker.

I've noticed some awful dating profile with guys showing a gun collection and saying they are married just looking for chat and the risks of sextortion.

But if im thinking about trying this app there might be other normal people like me on it right?

Has anyone had any luck with this app or others? As its a numbers game I think just the more guys I get to see the higher my rate of success.

CrowCrow

It's no different to meeting someone anywhere else.

Only danger with the internet is if you spend too long talking solely on it then you form a artificial picture of the other person filled with desirable traits you imposed on them. When you meet them they fall short of your perfect man/woman.

Move to a first date as quick as possible and it should be fine.

It is a numbers game, you might talk to 100 guys and only fancy meeting 1. Imagine how hard it is to meet 100 randomer guys offline.

cadon

Tinder started life as a hookup app and it's still known as a hookup app.

With that said, I do know one chap who used it specifically to find a girlfriend rather than a one-night-stand. I imagine men with that attitude to Tinder are in the minority. All the other guys I know who use Tinder are after sex and nothing more.

Every form of communication is an opportunity to meet someone, but if you do want a long-term partner rather than a bit of fun, take care when using Tinder as the people you speak to may not have the same expectations as you.

DUTR

Don't hate the player, hate the game.
The people on there have not signed up waiting for you, they too would have come across their fair share of unsuitable characters for a host of reasons. As a bloke I see many profiles that are possibly just attention seeking or looking for someone to depend on now that they have split with the children's father for whatever reason, on pof there is the same woman with at least 3 profiles.

System

I believe eharmony is a bit more sensible, but I'm not sure how much they charge.

Li0nhead

Just play real life tinder.

Stand on the street as people pass.
Swipe right if attractive and throw them in the van to your right.
Swipe left by throwing them on the path to your left if not attractive.

tomtontom

I've met some perfectly nice men on Tinder. The ones that are looking for a one night stand are usually pretty clear in their intentions so can be avoided.

Male friends that use it aren't so keen, there seems to be a stereotypical female user - lone parent, non working, "my kids are my world" - so if you don't fit that bill you'll get a lot of attention.

(Nothing wrong if you fit the stereotype, just that you'll have a lot of competition from other similar women.)

amistupid

I was disappointed to find that Screwfix wasn't a dating site.

DUTR

tomtontom wrote: »

I've met some perfectly nice men on Tinder. The ones that are looking for a one night stand are usually pretty clear in their intentions so can be avoided.

Male friends that use it aren't so keen, there seems to be a stereotypical female user - lone parent, non working, "my kids are my world" - so if you don't fit that bill you'll get a lot of attention.

(Nothing wrong if you fit the stereotype, just that you'll have a lot of competition from other similar women.)

That seems to be a feature on pof too, blendr appears to have less so, but I fear lots are fakes trying to get members to upgrade, lot's of so and so wants to chat....well they can send a message, as they won't be replying even to say thanks but no thanks.

always_sunny

I guess when the music in the clubs is too loud, may as well use the screen to reach the same good ole objective !

Person_one

amistupid wrote: »

I was disappointed to find that Screwfix wasn't a dating site.

Do you get an email alert from MSE when an opportunity for innuendo presents itself? :rotfl: