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TrulyMadly

lookinforabargain wrote: »

At the end of my tether with my DD at bedtime anyone have any miracle solutions for getting a 6 year old to go to bed and stay there without having a full on screaming hissy fit every night?!
We do the whole wind down routine no tv or devices on, shower or bath followed by some fruit and warm milk, tucked up in bed and then read a chapter or 2 of a book. And then all hell breaks loose *sigh*

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It's not too early is it.....is she tired/ ready for bed?

Just a couple of general pointers Flabster........the behaviour that we pay attention to we get more of.....sometimes it's best to ignore if you can and just stay calm. If you react she will know she's pressing buttons and pushing boundaries. We need the patience of a saint don't we:rotfl:
Praise is magic.....when she behaves at bedtime praise her. If her behaviour is poor and you can't find anything to praise her for then praise her for being her.......a lovely smile, for being kind, sharing toys etc.
It can be a long process but she will get your drift eventually.

Good luck:)

FloFlo

lookinforabargain wrote: »

It ranges from she's not tired, she can't get to sleep, she just wants to speak to me. Basically anything to put it off and then when I don't entertain all that she throws a tantrum. She does have the odd moments during the day, but then what 6 year old doesn't?!



We started a reward chart thing, similar to what they have in her class at school where they collect table points, but when I started removing points for her continually getting out of bed she just got even more wild The threat of having her tablet and laptop time taken off her doesn't make a difference either. And I always follow through on that and take it off her the next day if that's what I've said I'll do.

I'd go for a reward and forget the consequences to start with to be honest, if you get it done once with an immediate reward in the morning the taste of success should make her want to repeat. That's the theory anyway.;)

lookinforabargain

FloFlo wrote: »

Persevering and routine will get it there eventually. Closing eyes and counting backwards is a good way to drop off to sleep, used to practise it with DD and turn it into a game and in the morning we used to say what number we could last remember getting to before going off. When we went on a school trip for 4 nights I was the one who did the rounds comforting those who couldn't sleep/missing home etc and the counting worked for most of them too, I used to just make up a number to compare wiht them in morning

I would definitely go for a reward immediately in the morning if they have stayed in bed without a fuss - could be as simple as a favourite treat for breakfast.

I'll add the counting to the list, I'll try anything at the moment.

Don't get me wrong, I know she's had a fair bit of upheaval with her and I moving house, but this isn't something new unfortunately, it just seems to have got worse and it's getting me down. I really appreciate the replies :A

TrulyMadly

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fernie1

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kurly~kale

lookinforabargain wrote: »

It ranges from she's not tired, she can't get to sleep, she just wants to speak to me. Basically anything to put it off and then when I don't entertain all that she throws a tantrum. She does have the odd moments during the day, but then what 6 year old doesn't?!



We started a reward chart thing, similar to what they have in her class at school where they collect table points, but when I started removing points for her continually getting out of bed she just got even more wild The threat of having her tablet and laptop time taken off her doesn't make a difference either. And I always follow through on that and take it off her the next day if that's what I've said I'll do.

Don't remove the points that she's already earnt, otherwise she will stop trying to earn them. As others have said make the reward small and achievable, like only 2 stars needed for the first reward.
If she continually gets out of bed just keep putting her back, and make that one of her target/ rewards.
If you think she doesn't like being left try reassuring by doing something close by, and saying that you will,go back to her in say 5 mins.
I had this problem with my son, it was a nightmare :eek:
You just have to,perservere, bed time is bedtime no matter what, if she's 'not tired' say that's ok , but you still have to go to bed, even if you lie awake.
Drink, small glass of water by the bed, but she needs to know that it has to last for the whole night. It's a battle of wills .....
Don't give in! If you do she's won !
Good luck xx

kurly~kale

fernie1 wrote: »

Kurly~kale, have you heard of "personalisation care" and do you know any understanding of it?

Eh? In relation to what ?

TrulyMadly

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underperky

lookinforabargain wrote: »

At the end of my tether with my DD at bedtime anyone have any miracle solutions for getting a 6 year old to go to bed and stay there without having a full on screaming hissy fit every night?!
We do the whole wind down routine no tv or devices on, shower or bath followed by some fruit and warm milk, tucked up in bed and then read a chapter or 2 of a book. And then all hell breaks loose *sigh*

There are no rules and regulations for bedtime .... but a routine of

all hell breaking loose may now be a pattern or cycle that needs

breaking ..hard cold clinical way is to leave the bedroom after you

have done the story as each time you give in she will take

advantage of this and even at 6 children are great at making you

feel guilty and will manipulate you at every weak point they can

so my advice and that's all it is

Leave the room she gets out of bed and you take her back don't

talk or "argue " with her just back into bed and say

goodnight ....repeat over and over until she realises that you are

not giving in ...no over night fix here its a long haul to eventually

improve your dd and the rest of the family bedtime rituals

I didn't say it was going to be easy by the way ...as only today I

was in the butchers with dgd and she wants a kinnerton egg for a

£1 I said no she said pleeeaaassse Gwandma ....I had already

handed

the money to the shop assistant and she is awaiting the outcome

so now 2 grown ups are waiting on a five year old I said no again

and she says they are my faves Gwandma ...I could feel myself

wanting to get her one just as her pet lip was a quivering but in

my mind I thought if I give in now she is going to get me every

shopping trip so I told the shop assistant that was all ...she gave

me my change and we left to silently walk to the car ,once in the

car she burst into tears and gave me a very sad sob story of why

she should have one ...I just stuck with my guns and by the time

we had a few minutes silence in the car on the way home by

the time we went in the house the said kinnerton egg was all

forgotten about and my pound will go into her savings for a car or

to pay the insurance of her first car ...and I will tell her it was all

paid for by kinnerton eggs ...well if she hasn't run me over by

then for being such a meanie and not buying her a kinnerton egg :rotfl::rotfl:

lookinforabargain

underperky wrote: »

There are no rules and regulations for bedtime .... but a routine of

all hell breaking loose may now be a pattern or cycle that needs

breaking ..hard cold clinical way is to leave the bedroom after you

have done the story as each time you give in she will take

advantage of this and even at 6 children are great at making you

feel guilty and will manipulate you at every week point they can

so my advice and that's all it is

Leave the room she gets out of bed and you take her back don't

talk or "argue " with her just back into bed and say

goodnight ....repeat over and over until she realises that you are

not giving in ...no over night fix here its a long haul to eventually

improve your dd and the rest of the family bedtime rituals

I didn't say it was going to be easy by the way ...as only today I

was in the butchers with dgd and she wants a kinnerton egg for a

£1 I said no she said pleeeaaassse Gwandma ....I had already

handed

the money to the shop assistant and she is awaiting the outcome

so now 2 grown ups are waiting on a five year old I said no again

and she says they are my faves Gwandma ...I could feel myself

wanting to get her one just as her pet lip was a quivering but in

my mind I thought if I give in now she is going to get me every

shopping trip so I told the shop assistant that was all ...she gave

me my change and we left to silently walk to the car ,once in the

car she burst into tears and gave me a very sad sob story of why

she should have one ...I just stuck with my guns and by the time

we had a few minutes silence in the car on the way home by

the time we went in the house the said kinnerton egg was all

forgotten about and my pound will go into her savings for a car or

to pay the insurance of her first car ...and I will tell her it was all

paid for by kinnerton eggs ...well if she hasn't run me over by

then for being such a meanie and not buying her a kinnerton egg :rotfl::rotfl:

Oh Perky that made me chuckle thank you :A