Grounds for divorce

Vikipollard

I divorced my first husband for his unreasonable behaviour in 2003.

At that time - and I have no idea if it has changed - if he had wanted to defend it, he would have had to show he hadn't done the things I felt were unreasonable. The onus was not on me to prove he had. As TBagpuss says, unreasonable behaviour is subjective.

I didn't forewarn him of the content (it was a bad break up), but as he rang me in tears saying he was sorry and he'd done it all 'for me', I presume he either signed the papers or they issued the nisi anyway.

I was advised not to apply for the absolute until all the financials were sorted. That turned out to be very sage advice as it took him 18 months to pay what we had agreed and the divorce was the lever as he was by then wanting to remarry.

Valli

Given many solicitors offer a free half hour initial consultation you could arrange one (or more) to both ask a professional's opinion and to establish whether or not you would be happy to use that solicitor. Or, indeed, any solicitor.

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tea_lover wrote: »

Is she likely to agree to unreasonable behaviour? You'll need her to sign the papers either way, unless you can wait 5 years.

From my own very limited experience, not necessarily .. Many years ago the 1st Mrs Sleazy left me - didn't want me and didn't want a divorce either. Being the nice guy :rotfl: that I am, and not wanting dirty washing on display, I had a solicitor draw up some separation papers thinking that in two years I would get a divorce anyway.

The then Mrs Sleazy didn't agree to divorce, so wouldn't sign :mad:. The Judge gave me a divorce anyway and the 1st Mrs Sleazy still doesn't want to talk to me ....

The current Mrs Sleazy is wonderful however :kisses3:and I have no intention to let her go however good the offer ... for some things there is no price ...