Suit for funeral

chrishar

Hi ,

I will be attending a funeral soon and its the first time I've been to one.

I'm assuming I should wear a black suit and white shirt? I only have one dark grey suit which I've worn at weddings.

Where can I get a cheap black suit from? I'm guessing these days its cheaper to buy a cheap one than bother hiring one?

Thanks for your help...

Robin9

I steward many funerals for my local Church. Most are a celebration of life and the family may request informal, colourful dress.

There is no black suit and tie - just dress in what you are comfortable in - your grey suit will be fine.

kingfisherblue

I agree, your grey suit is fine for a funeral. You don't have to wear black, just look smart. If you feel that black is necessary, wear a black tie.

Andypandyboy

Black tie, white shirt and charcoal suit will be fine.

Fen1

Your grey suit will be absolutely fine. As the previous poster has suggested, a black tie, unless it has been specifically requested by the deceased's family for a colourful tie.
Some people want to celebrate the deceased's life , so want colour. However, other families want a traditional ceremony so bright colours would be a serious faux pas.

We wore colour to my grandmother's funeral. She had a long life and it was a time to celebrate her. BUT for other relatives it was strictly formal and there were definite dirty looks when one lady turned up in a pink blouse rather than something sombre.

Personally, I'd go with a black tie, just to be on the safe side.

Rolandtheroadie

Just had to buy a new suit for a funeral, went with charcoal.

Got one from Slaters, 3 piece, £200 including shirt and belt. Sure they done cheaper.

mum2one

another yes for the grey suit you have, - if you have a black tie - that id enough to cover the black element...

The last furneral I went to was Nov 15, I would say a lot of gents had grey / navy suits, trousers and blazer.

If you feel that strongly about a black suit - look at Tesco / asda - your get a cheap one,

I'd say its a nice gesture - but go as you are, x

jon81uk

As others say, grey should be fine. But if the family of the deceased really want a black dress code you could just try Primark. I had a very good grey suit from there before for under £50. Just check as sometimes the cheap black suits look shiny, but you can tell in store whether it looks right. Otherwise if you want to spend a bit more you can get a good suit for £100 from M&S (this is £99 http://www.marksandspencer.com/black-super-slim-fit-suit-including-waistcoat/p/dsdf2213110b4aa1bc70945eab87a6c7e4?prevPage=plp)

DigForVictory

Better a decent suit in grey than a supermarket own label with the fabric black as specified but shiny.
Yes, the family may want everyone in solid black (ignoring the gradations that allow them to be in deepest mourning) but that's a bit of an ask with travel often at short notice as well.
Sadly, a really smart black tie will be a solid investment.
To keep everyone as happy as possible, a smart umbrella, several clean cloth handkerchiefs, clean shoes & fingernails, tidy hair & a recent wash & shave (there's usually a lot of greeting) are all worth remembering, along with setting your mobile on silent....

May take more effort than a Tesco £40 special, but far far more respectful to the deceased, the bereaved & the extended family gathering!

Kernow666

charity shop maybe

chrishar

Thanks for the replies. I will wear the charcoal trousers but have decided to wear a plain black sports jacket instead of the suit jacket. I will get a nice white shirt. Final question can I wear an alternative to a solid black tie. I really hate plain black ties and was wondering if dark grey or blue or something would be OK.