Family sponsorship?

Jonnycash

Hi all

I have joined so that I can ask one question??
My son has been diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumour, he is 3 years old. I work full time as we have 4 children and own a house. I have worked since leaving school, but right now in my life, I want to be at home with my child, and not regret spending time with him. I feel stuck in my job and don't want to go on benefits! Am I crazy in thinking that with all the rich people in the world, one of them would help our family be together? How would I find them to help? I sit up awake most nights, thinking I am going to regret staying in work for the next few years while my son is so poorly. I don't want to be a millionaire (though I keep hoping on the lotto) I just want enough to continue living as we are without working.... Am I wrong for thinking like this?

xylophone

Ask your employer for some compassionate leave/shorter hours etc?

zizu73

Very sorry to hear about your situation. Must be extremely challenging. Unfortunately waiting for a rich stranger to sponsor your family is not impossible but highly unlikely IMO. Probably best option to try to ask as mentioned for flexible working, i.e. working shorter hours, working from home, might be able to get extra days off as compassionate leave. That is what I did when my father was diagnosed with terminal cancer. When his health deteriorated I did take 2 months unpaid leave. It will depend on your finances, work situation and how much understanding your managers will have for your situation. Wish you good luck.

Jonnycash

I have gone down to a 4 day week, as most weeks we have to travel 150miles round trip to the hospital in Sheffield, we can't claim any petrol or parking back either, which I think is terrible for starters. I would love to work from home and start my own business, I am a design Draftsman and have a grate job, however if I took time off I feel I would not have a position to return to. I just want to spend every minute I can with my son, I hopefully will figure out what I want to do soon. Just so desperate for an answer to everything right now, it's hard to think straight. I don't want to quit and go on the dole, even though many do that just because they don't want to work, I have payed for plenty of them with my tax money! Maybe I need someone who would invest into helping me start a home based business, I have very strong 3d skills and can draw anything I see usually I am creative, but like I said before, my brain has turned off

Gadfium

Firstly, you are going through a very traumatic experience. Please don't make any rash decisions, especially if you are in the middle of a whirlwind of emotions. Especially if the terrible news is still quite new.

Spend the time with your son. You will regret it otherwise for the rest of your life. The world will keep on turning and I am sure that you can pick your career up again afterwards.

It does sound to me that you are in one of the stages of grief- possibly denial or anger & bargaining. These are normal emotions- don't feel sorry, embarrassed or frustrated for having them. Perhaps seeking emotional support or family support might be a better path than financial?

Best wishes for a very difficult, traumatic situation.