Mother of the Bride outfit

Out of curiosity, what would you all think of a mother wearing a bright red dress to her daughter's wedding?

Should the mother of the bride co-ordinate with the wedding party or wear something neutral that doesn't clash or is anything ok?

My mom has sent me a picture of the dress she has picked out to wear to my wedding and it is a solid bright red. I'm a bit worried about how it'll look in the pictures (it's a spring wedding with a much softer colour palette) and also a bit annoyed that she's chosen something so 'showy'. I don't know if that's a bit bridezilla or if it would be ok to say something to her and suggest another colour would be more appropriate.
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  • I don't think it's unreasonable to ask her to 'tone it down' and wear something with a more softer colour to match in with the wedding theme.

    Is there any reason why she's gone for something so bold in colour?
  • She said last winter she had a bright red coat and she thought it looked nice on her. I just think she's ordered something in a rush without thinking it through - she's very impatient and had ordered the dress within hours of us confirming the wedding date.
    Common sense?...There's nothing common about sense!
  • When are you due to get married? Do you think that she might find something else later down the line?
  • I think it's bridezilla of you to ask her not to wear it. Sorry! You have a colour palette but I assume you're not asking all guests to adhere to it? :)
  • Our wedding is at the end of May - I think in the new year there will be lots of lovely spring dresses showing up in the shops that would be more appropriate.

    cashewnut - no, I certainly don't intend to tell everyone attending what they can/can't wear but the rest of the guests won't be stood front and centre with the wedding party in all the photos. I think it's less problematic to ask her to wear something different than to tell her she needs to stand at the back or not be in the photos. She's caused enough misery in my life, I don't want her to ruin my wedding photos too.
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  • Why would someone in a red dress ruin the photos?
  • MojisolaMojisola Forumite
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    You could tell her that some people will interpret her red dress as meaning that she has slept with the groom! Silly idea but it's one of those 'traditions' that does the rounds on the internet.
  • Why would someone in a red dress ruin the photos?

    Because I really dislike it, I find it inappropriate, I feel like it'll show me up (which she has always done) and it will clash with the wedding party.
    Mojisola wrote: »
    You could tell her that some people will interpret her red dress as meaning that she has slept with the groom! Silly idea but it's one of those 'traditions' that does the rounds on the internet.

    I haven't heard that one! I don't think I'd dare say it because my OH would not be impressed lol

    I've had a message and my dad has already told her he doesn't think it's appropriate so hopefully she'll agree to wear something else.
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  • lika_86lika_86 Forumite
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    Why don't you plan a day when you, your mum and your MIL all go and look for wedding outfits for them so that they won't clash (and then steer her away from red)?
  • peliroccopelirocco Forumite
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    I think its pretty Bridezilla , and from your posts I think you have issues with her and are looking for a fight tbh , have you told your future MIL what she can or cannot wear?

    I was surprised when my MIL asked me what colour my mum would be wearing , it never occurred to me that anyone would care who wore what . A wedding is just a day , its the rest of your life you need to worry about lol
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