Lodgers moved child in without my permission

marksoton

Celifein wrote: »

"The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting."

So, tea and cake is great, but only if you get your way?

I'd suggest know thy enemy more but hey, that also works.

Plus who gives away tea and cake to get an unsatisfactory outcome!?:p

G_M

marksoton wrote: »

Plus who gives away tea and cake to get an unsatisfactory outcome!?:p

Being cynical (I'm allowed as the advocate of tea'ncake) [tean cake?] it's like paying for insurance. An upfront cost that often delivers no benefit.

But when it does deliver benefit, well worth the upfront cost.

You also get to eat a lot of cake yourself.........

Poppie68

They are obviously not considerate of your feelings or have respect for you as a LL so you really do need to give them the 28 days notice... You don't even need to explain your reasoning, but for the safety of your property and your sanity either tell the truth or a little white lie. You could come home one day and find their whole family have moved in.....I have just been looking for a story I read a few months ago about a professional lady you had rented out a room to someone from overseas, she went away for a few days and came home to find 6 other members of the lodgers family had moved in...She had a hell of a time getting them out...

If they only need a room I'm sure they will find something easily so don't feel sorry for them..

marksoton

G_M wrote: »

Being cynical (I'm allowed as the advocate of tea'ncake) [tean cake?] it's like paying for insurance. An upfront cost that often delivers no benefit.

But when it does deliver benefit, well worth the upfront cost.

You also get to eat a lot of cake yourself.........

I always knew there was an ulterior motive to this approach!

Mallotum_X

When three wise men turn up you really will have a house full.

sgun

I think you should ask them if the child is staying for good and if this is the case give them the 28 days notice regardless. This situation has put you in an awkward position and has the potential to turn bad. Not wanting to sound alarmist you are now in a position where you are living in close proximity to a child, sharing facilities and at times may be in a situation where you are alone with said child. Having been a teacher for 18 years I have seen many "misunderstood" situations where child has believed adult was inappropriate, or just plain made up situations where allegations have been made and have to be investigated. It has never ended well for the person accused of inappropriate behaviour even with full DBS disclosure.


Yes, something like this happening is very, very unlikely but it is a situation I would not want to be in. Of course, I'm not saying that people should never take in lodgers with children (or men take in single women lodgers etc the list could go on forever) but I would want to know the lodgers very well before I did it.

m0bov

I would ask the parents/guardians the child must leave immediatly. The child is not on the contract so no 28 day rule. Then issue a 28 day notice to the adults if needed. Child protection, you really need to deal with this right now.

xylophone

for example is the child staying for the school holidays)

The OP says the child has already been with the parents for over a month - unless the uncle lives locally, it would seem likely that the child is under school age?

For the child to have to sleep on the floor for an extended period hardly seems satisfactory?

princeofpounds

I always knew there was an ulterior motive to this approach!

I thought the idea of the cake was to sit there at the head of the table eating it all yourself with gusto whilst the tenants approach as supplicants, with much doffing of caps and tugging of forelocks.


No?


Personally, if you are worried about the Christmas thing, I would just tell them that the situation isn't sustainable, but that you will only start doing about it (i.e. serving your notice) at the end of the month, so they aren't trying to change their arrangements over the Christmas period


You've put up with them for a few weeks, a few more weeks isn't that terrible if it makes you feel better about it.


I do think however it's best to tell them this side of Christmas. If they have an uninterrupted Christmas then they might get a bit too settled.