Discharged without a care package

margaretclare

oldandhappy wrote: »

My mother in Uk is 87 and been admitted recently to Hosptial for urine infection and is very confused state of mind again.She has only been home from another hospital long stay jujst 2 weeks ago.She now says she wants to go home but my sister who sees her regulary has said she is not fit to be at home alone. She is also not mobile at all and incontinent.No idea right now where Mum will end up....

If your Mum is not mobile AND incontinent there is no way she can be at home alone. Your sister is right.

I'm speaking from the personal experience I'm having presently. Due to powerful oral antibiotics to kill my UTI, the side-effect is to make my poor insides turn cartwheels. I only just made it to the loo on more than one occasion and had to clean myself up. I've even ended up going back into the shower and changing completely. How could I have done all that if I was completely immobile?

DH tells me he's not embarrassed at all, been there, seen it, done it several times. It wouldn't be the first time if I'd had to bundle the bathroom mats into the washer along with everything else. Not possible if I was completely immobile.

redzak

Hi

It's worth you speaking to your gp and seeing if he would be entitled to NHS continuing health care. If so, the NHS will meet the costs of care at home. This is a complicated area as the NHS assessment will determine if there is a care need and then ultimately who is responsible for paying for the care, the NHS, your local authority or you.

You can read more info on the UK care guide - http://ukcareguide.co.uk/applying-for-nhs-continuing-healthcare

From experience this whole process will be stressful. Good luck.

oldandhappy

margaretclare wrote: »

If your Mum is not mobile AND incontinent there is no way she can be at home alone. Your sister is right.

I'm speaking from the personal experience I'm having presently. Due to powerful oral antibiotics to kill my UTI, the side-effect is to make my poor insides turn cartwheels. I only just made it to the loo on more than one occasion and had to clean myself up. I've even ended up going back into the shower and changing completely. How could I have done all that if I was completely immobile?

DH tells me he's not embarrassed at all, been there, seen it, done it several times. It wouldn't be the first time if I'd had to bundle the bathroom mats into the washer along with everything else. Not possible if I was completely immobile.

Thanks for that Margaret I have only just returned to the forum just now...my Mum has made some great improvements mentally at least I have been told by the staff the other day...I would not be embarassed either by anything ... my other half having had early stages..luckily...bowel cancer the treatment although lasered only, still changes bowel habits for sure....
:eek:...my daughter in Uk has been going through hell this past year with aggressive breast cancer so living abroad as much as we love it is difficult for helping our loved ones with health issues.

My Mum I know will want to go home again but seems not to be able to make the sensible decisions now..even things like whilst she has been away (long stay the 1st time and maybe not so long stay this time) she could make a disability type bathroom she can afford it!!!!seems too easy to me but nobody will push her really...


Take care regards Dianne

margaretclare

oldandhappy wrote: »

Thanks for that Margaret I have only just returned to the forum just now...my Mum has made some great improvements mentally at least I have been told by the staff the other day...I would not be embarassed either by anything ... my other half having had early stages..luckily...bowel cancer the treatment although lasered only, still changes bowel habits for sure....
:eek:...my daughter in Uk has been going through hell this past year with aggressive breast cancer so living abroad as much as we love it is difficult for helping our loved ones with health issues.

My Mum I know will want to go home again but seems not to be able to make the sensible decisions now..even things like whilst she has been away (long stay the 1st time and maybe not so long stay this time) she could make a disability type bathroom she can afford it!!!!seems too easy to me but nobody will push her really...


Take care regards Dianne

Thanks for this. If your Mum can afford a disability-style bathroom there are several firms who can do this. Mobility Plus is the one which is doing it for us, early April. Knowledge and experience are essential. We've just been away staying in a hotel in France for our wedding anniversary. We always ask for a walk-in shower and are usually not disappointed. In this instance there was what appeared to be a lovely wet-room BUT the floor got slippery when wet and not enough grab-handles.

supersuzie50

My 95 year old mother decided she wanted a walk in shower. She had quotes and decided on one. However she has never used it because it was not right. It has a seat and grab rails. It was a disaster. She was present all the time during the installation.

margaretclare

supersuzie50 wrote: »

My 95 year old mother decided she wanted a walk in shower. She had quotes and decided on one. However she has never used it because it was not right. It has a seat and grab rails. It was a disaster. She was present all the time during the installation.

Why is it not right? What's wrong with it?

I suggest she goes back to the company that installed it and makes her concerns known.

We stayed in a hotel in France last week which had what appeared like a lovely wet-room. DH had a shower but I didn't - floor became very slippery when wet, and not enough grab-rails. On the face of it though, it looked ideal but experience said otherwise.

Your mother must have paid a fortune for her shower-room - I'd be straight back to the installers with a complaint.