Out of the (foul) mouths of babes...

determined_new_ms

I have a 2 1/2 year old, we don't swear in front of her tbh we don't swear very often but a few months ago I had an accident and hurt myself and accidentally said the f word in front of her.

She occasionally said it for a few months :eek: and I just *hoped* she wouldn't say it at the childminders :eek::eek::eek:

Gettingtherequickly

Unfortunately, we live in those times where it is almost un-noticed when heard, irrespective of upbringing. My last job was in a plc head office, so standards were required. It was a bit of a shock when we had a new interim director who swore regularly, but he crossed the line when the use of the c word was liberal. We had no choice but to speak to the CEO to get it dealt with. No more swearing after that from him.

When I started school I picked up the f word. Neighbour, who was such a polite old lady came into my mum, as she could hear me singing it in the garden.

"Is GTQ saying what I think she is saying?"
"Yes Mrs B"
"And what are you going to do about it?"
"Ignore her, if I make an issue, she will continue. We know she picked it up at school, so if it is ignored, she will drop it"

And I did, because it was not used at home, it didn't become an automatic habit.

Tygermoth

My MIL lives in a flat above a family of four. The tone, savagery and use of foul language is just down right shocking. Screaming matches in front of the children where they call each other the most terrible horrible offensive hurtful things. They mock and belittle the children and calling then idiots and r’tards. Its never-ending! They are either screaming at each other or the kids all the time.

After popping in last week and listening in (you couldn’t help it, the shouting was so loud!) I asked the MIL why she hadn’t reported them to the HA - she shrugged and said the last three families in the flat were exactly the same as well as the one across the hall she reported the first family and was basically told ‘it’s the norm’

determined_new_ms

Tygermoth wrote: »

My MIL lives in a flat above a family of four. The tone, savagery and use of foul language is just down right shocking. Screaming matches in front of the children where they call each other the most terrible horrible offensive hurtful things. They mock and belittle the children and calling then idiots and r’tards. Its never-ending! They are either screaming at each other or the kids all the time.

After popping in last week and listening in (you couldn’t help it, the shouting was so loud!) I asked the MIL why she hadn’t reported them to the HA - she shrugged and said the last three families in the flat were exactly the same as well as the one across the hall she reported the first family and was basically told ‘it’s the norm’

Gosh that's so sad to read

pinkshoes

As a teacher, I find myself frequently being sworn at when telling a child off for not obeying rules.

Clearly some children do not experience action and consequence scenarios at home, and have never had punishments/threats followed through with.

I sent a 14 year old out of my lesson for repeatedly failing to follow a simple instruction of putting pen down and listening the other day, which everyone else had managed. Queue a string of verbal abuse on his way out.

I sent another out the dining hall for throwing food (basic school rules) to which he squared up to me and told me to **** off aggressively in my face. Charming behaviour for a 13 year old, especially as I was heavily pregnant!

When dropping my son off at school (reception class), there was another little boy who told his mum to "get out my way", then slapped her when she didnt move. Did she tell him off? Nope!

Kids pick most things up from their parents.

Goldiegirl

pinkshoes wrote: »

Kids pick most things up from their parents.

That is so true. In my childhood I never heard my parents swear - in fact the first time I heard the 'f' word spoken was when I went to secondary school. Even in adulthood, I only heard my dad swear a handful of times, and that was under great stress. My mum always had an aversion to swearing.


But these days, if I watch a reality show like Holiday Swop, I'm always surprised when the parents routinely swear in front of the kids.


How times have changed

Guest101

Goldiegirl wrote: »

That is so true. In my childhood I never heard my parents swear - in fact the first time I heard the 'f' word spoken was when I went to secondary school. Even in adulthood, I only heard my dad swear a handful of times, and that was under great stress. My mum always had an aversion to swearing.


But these days, if I watch a reality show like Holiday Swop, I'm always surprised when the parents routinely swear in front of the kids.


How times have changed

The 'calibre' of the show participants is questionable I think...

pigpen

I swear... sometimes to the point I wonder if I may have Tourettes.. yet my children are taught the difference between what is and is not acceptable and have not ever used profanities (in my earshot!!) until they were about 20... if they ever said anything to a family member they'd get a good telling off too.. My grandson however.. :eek:

My oldest when aged about 2 picked up a b word from my uncle not to use himself but in the context of.. uncle hammers his thumb and is trying not to swear with DS1 sat on his chest.. DS1 says 'do you need to say b*******?? Say b****** and it will feel better' .. e had a trip around the supermarket when he was learning letters and he was repeating B, G, B, G .. phonetically that sounds very different to 'bee-gee' ..

Everyone swears to some degree it is whether it is encouraged or the child is taught otherwise.

My cousins first word was the b word.

heuchera

pinkshoes wrote: »

.. Queue a string of verbal abuse on his way out.

I sent another out the dining hall for throwing food (basic school rules) to which he squared up to me and told me to **** off aggressively in my face.

That would have got you expelled (or at the very least suspended) back when I was at school. But apparently they're not even allowed to exclude pupils these days.. I despair.

kingfisherblue

I swear occasionally, but only bl00dy or bu99er (the same as my mum). The odd time I do swear, my son, who has Down's Syndrome, says "Ahh, naughty word mum. Say sorry." He gets very upset when people swear at school or in shops as well.

Needless to say, he doesn't swear. My other other son doesn't swear in front of me (but probably does when with his friends), and my daughter only swears occasionally in front of me, usually the same words that I use.

The first time I heard a particular word (beginning with F), I was in primary school. It was around 1977 and I would have been about eight. The teacher made the boy who said it stand up, while she told him off in front of the rest of the class. I remember her asking him if he thought he was clever, knowing an old Anglo-Saxon word.