Neither a borrower nor a lender be...

mussgo

the best reply to the request for a short gap loan (but at the same time knowing it would be the start of continous battle of getting money back) from new neighbours was ....Oh..... I was just coming over to yours to ask if you could lend me a few few quid to next month!!!!

mandarinduck

missile wrote: »

It seems that the person who lends the money is the one losing sleep over if and when it will be repaid.....

Am definitely losing sleep now as any attempt I make to ask for it back is being pre-empted by a comment about why they don't have it yet. They still appear to be enjoying the finer things in life such as a weekend away and an upcoming holiday but there has been a personal issue that has also prevented me from asking for it back. No idea what to do now. I feel like a mug but I don't want to cause rows etc.

missile

It seems like your OH was right, you have been taken for a mug. Put it down to experience and forget it. Next time she (or indeed anyone else) asks you can say when anyone asks you for a loan, .........

Margaret54

Please don't feel bad about being so kind. I too used to be like you, always willing to help out when possible and got stung badly a few times, but i found i could not refuse back then. I saw the light a good time later, and became more assertive, and i would never lend money to anyone now. It is different if one of my sons who live at home and works were to ask me for say £10 until pay day that is fine as i get it back. There are people out there who do take advantage of people like your kind self. Best wishes Margaret

mandarinduck

Thank you Margaret - that's really kind. I do feel upset both with myself and the borrower but it's been really nice to hear everyone's advice and very supportive comments. I hope I'll have more backbone in future and try and remember everything I've read here.