Everyone lost in the Ether II

fairclaire

I went to my imaginary disciplinary hearing with my imaginary friends wife today

it was interesting. She had accepted some photocopied match and more vouchers. this store has apparently been flooded with them and I saw them, they are very good copies. I couldn't distinguish them from the real thing and neither could any of the people sat round the table.

I won't go into the ins and outs other than 'on this occasion' they dropped the disciplinary proceedings. The manager of the store did tell me however that Morries are introducing a watermark on the vouchers to make them harder to copy.

I resisted from telling him they aren't worth copying anymore and that their run of fake vouchers will dry up very soon.

it doesn't change my mind on the fact that innocent employees are being made to pay for mistakes that aren't their fault. the next time you get trouted it may be because someone is trying to keep their job.

fairclaire

I've had a fractious night.

I've expressed my wishes to leave my cancer ridden body to research when I depart. it's what I want but it's caused ALOT of tears it's Important to me and I feel strongly about it but I've ended up in an argument that I didn't want to be in

I understand the upset but I want to be of use. there won't be a cure in my lifetime for the disease I have but it's so close. I can't get the cure but I can be part of finding it. yes?

I've had a very tearful screaming match about it tonight

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=7duPNQCp-w4

just listen

altojack

As far as family go you are between the devil and the deep blue sea. You have made your wishes clear and you're happy with what decision you have made. It is so so hard for loved ones to come to terms with though. They are losing you and the thought of others 'having' you after you die is hard for them to take on board. I'm sure once the plans are thought about in time they will see and understand why you have this wish.

You are so low now, time I know isn't on your side and all you are trying to do is put things in order before it is too late. I find it hard to get my head around this FC as I feel I know you well and will be so very upset when you are no longer here. I'll have lost a wonderful, strong, and caring friend x

aau1

fairclaire wrote: »

I've had a fractious night.

I've expressed my wishes to leave my cancer ridden body to research when I depart. it's what I want but it's caused ALOT of tears it's Important to me and I feel strongly about it but I've ended up in an argument that I didn't want to be in

I understand the upset but I want to be of use. there won't be a cure in my lifetime for the disease I have but it's so close. I can't get the cure but I can be part of finding it. yes?

I've had a very tearful screaming match about it tonight

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=7duPNQCp-w4

just listen

I'd like to think I'd do the same as you want to do for the benefit of other families down the line.

Maybe talking about it now is just making it all the more real for your family though. I'm not for a second expecting you to change your mind (when do you ever? ) but can you revisit it later? Just plant the seed now that it's what you want, let them mull it over and then re-iterate in a wee bit?

x

altojack

Me too aau but it comes as a hell of a shock to the family to begin with. They just need time to get to accept the whole thing before they will be happy with the decision made. It is so hard on them but they will come round.

fairclaire

altojack wrote: »

As far as family go you are between the devil and the deep blue sea. You have made your wishes clear and you're happy with what decision you have made. It is so so hard for loved ones to come to terms with though. They are losing you and the thought of others 'having' you after you die is hard for them to take on board. I'm sure once the plans are thought about in time they will see and understand why you have this wish.

You are so low now, time I know isn't on your side and all you are trying to do is put things in order before it is too late. I find it hard to get my head around this FC as I feel I know you well and will be so very upset when you are no longer here. I'll have lost a wonderful, strong, and caring friend x

aau1 wrote: »

I'd like to think I'd do the same as you want to do for the benefit of other families down the line.

x

I know know. Even sqigs knows I know because she looked in my eyes and hugged me when I told her.

things took a turn for the worse and they are f***n unfair (sorry savvy ) I'm sure you can fill in the blanks

I've had a terrible argument with OH tonight who eventually decides he's optimistic......who made his glass half full? and after everything I'm being told off for being negative :rotfl:I can't bloody win.

I think he just can't handle what's going on with me . HUMPH

altojack

When my fathers life was completed we found out in the hospital that he had a donor card. It was a bolt from the blue, we , none of his family knew anything about this. We were all devastated, in floods of tears. Not only had we had sad taken from us at short notice he wanted to be cut up into pieces and given away. Our dad would no longer be complete.

After spending time in the family room we eventualy came to the conclusion that this is what his last wishes were. We still had our memories of a loving father, and husband to our mum. It gave us great proudness that he was going to help people out in death as he had always been a kind, caring and considerate man in life.

altojack

Give him time honey, not much time will be needed. He will be heart broken at the moment, as all the family are. Time will get him in your corner, by your side supporting your wishes. Just wait and see.

You can't be argumentative with him too much FC he needs help to get out of the black cloud he us under so he can see were you are at. Does that make sense?

altojack

FC you have a PM

fairclaire

altojack wrote: »

When my fathers life was completed we found out in the hospital that he had a donor card. It was a bolt from the blue, we , none of his family knew anything about this. We were all devastated, in floods of tears. Not only had we had sad taken from us at short notice he wanted to be cut up into pieces and given away. Our dad would no longer be complete.

After spending time in the family room we eventualy came to the conclusion that this is what his last wishes were. We still had our memories of a loving father, and husband to our mum. It gave us great proudness that he was going to help people out in death as he had always been a kind, caring and considerate man in life.

Oh my that is lovely and what this country needs. I reckon I'll be too knackered to help anyone else but I'll be happy to provide info that helps others.

my dad left his body to research and it was hard. I've been graciously reminded of that tonight in no uncertain terms. I felt it but I'm in a different place now. I'm not going yet but when I do, I'm helping research into to blood cancer.

did you know there are 137 types of blood cancer, all of them rare and I have one. I'm finding I can clear rooms lately

if I had breast/lung /bowel....or any popular flavour of cancer I wouldn't. I have something no one has ever heard of and I do clear rooms or I get people saying to me 'I hope you feel better soon'

I'm dying from an incurable cancer and I want so desperately that no one forgets that. it's not my fault you haven't heard of it

but if I have anything to do with it you will have by the time I'm finished