Second baby shower

KRB2725

I didn't have one for either of my LO's, although I know many people that did. I honestly don't see the point in them. My friends all came to see me and the respective babies after I had given birth.

However, back to the original question, I think it is the norm (if you go in for these things) to have one for every child.

Pollycat

Trek_girl - may I change your post a tiny bit?

Trek_girl wrote: »

When did having a baby shower for a second child become a thing?

When did having a baby shower become a thing?

lulu_92

I have repeatedly said that I do not want a baby shower. I find them embarrassing. My friend is adamant about throwing me one and I've said all I want us to have is tea and cake!

Topcat1982

balletshoes wrote: »

I was under the impression if you went in for baby showers, you would do it for every baby you had - in that respect, its no different from bridal showers?

In America, where baby showers are a thing, it's a faux pas to have one for a second child. As you already have all the stuff

Out,_Vile_Jelly

I'm not religious, but find myself quite superstitious about this. I never, ever buy cards or gifts before the child arrives safely. If anything did go wrong and I'd already bought a gift I would feel (stupidly and irrationally) that it was partly my fault, as I'd jinxed it. Luckily none of my friends have had a shower thus far, but that would be my excuse for not attending.

It's nice buying a gift afterwards; I only ever get them books, so you can write a personalised message to the new person.

SandC

I decline invitations to baby showers, they not only include gifts but cakes and balloons and stuff! Cheek!

One person I knew she threw her own!

gayleygoo

I've had three baby showers, and the were organised by friends as a surprise. It was great fun to have tea and cake and talk baby stuff with other women, although I was a little embarassed about the number of presents. I too would prefer to get most baby stuff in once baby has arrived, though I'm not superstitious about it.

Most people I know love buying or making things for babies, it's not like buying "hen party presents/bridal shower gifts" etc where the gift-giving seems quite pointless. I love going to baby showers regardless of how many babies the Mum has already had! If you didn't want to take a baby gift, I'm sure most pregnant women would be glad of a bunch of flowers or a home-cooked meal they could heat up later.

If it was "the done thing" to organise your own version of a baby shower, I'd have gone for a "Blessingway" type day where it's about building a support network, giving good wishes for the birth, maybe the guests could bring the likes of a bead to go on a bracelet that the Mum could wear to remind her of that support and love. Hippy stuff, not everyone's cup of tea, but I liked the idea!

jemb

C_Mababejive wrote: »

A vulgar Americanism for the aspiring middle classes and young pwohfessionals

Is there any real need?
I'd perhaps have one, but ask for donations to a neonatal ward or to a childrens chiarty?

emzi27

My friend threw one for me for my first. It was actually really lovely, we played games, ate party food and had a good catch up. For my second I absolutely catagorically said no way. Just felt wrong and greedy.
I enjoy going to them though and don't mind from a pressie point of view as if I buy a present I just don't get one when the baby is born so doesn't cost anymore money and is nice to see everybody.

pickledonionspaceraider

I don't think they are bad at all, as friends and family would generally buy the new baby a gift anyway - but probably just later when the child is born.

It helps the new parents get organised with what they have bits and pieces for the new born

This way, you get invited to a party, socialise with friends & family, and get fed and watered and its an invite not a summons, people can always choose not to go.

I've attended a couple, and were quite enjoyable fun events, and it seemed people were not expected to bring gifts, some did and some didn't.

There were certainly no gift requests nor subtexts that gift was a prerequisite of admission