Meeting half sister for first time in 5oyears

vansboy

A few months ago my half sisters, who I had no knowledge of, had traced me and is asking us to meet up on Sunday.

My mum and father had divorced before I was born and I've never known him, although he is in his 80's now and apparently quite frail. There is no intention of him and I meeting - just us siblings, all in our 50's now.

The meet will be in neutral surroundings and as I have no other family, as such, quite an extra-ordianry thing to do.

Wonder if anyone has had similar experience, or thoughts?

Thanks in advance.

VB

ttoli

This happened to My Mum a few years before she passed away , a Long lost half brother from Australia, they all met at my Mums house and it certainly filled in a few blanks from my Mothers early childhood , they stayed close .

Good luck

PasturesNew

Can you take somebody with you, to drive and hang around outside, so you don't have to think about driving and have somebody to "offload" to the minute you come away?

You'll be fine, but you'll be anxious - and then want/need to "offload" how you found it all, to a real person.

ManofLeisure_2

Hello vansboy, I expect you have very mixed feelings about this meeting - hope it goes well for you

A friend of ours had been adopted at birth, and then aged 52, had a knock on the door. A chap asked her whether she was Jane ?, to which she replied ''yes''. He then pointed to his car and told Jane that he believed that his wife (sitting in the car), was her sister. You can imagine what a shock that was as Jane had absolutely no knowledge of any siblings at all. She then invited the couple in (foolish, I know), and her sister gave a detailed account of why Jane had been placed into care and eventually adopted. At this time Jane learnt that she was the youngest of 6 children and the only one who had been placed for adoption. Eventually, Jane met with her other siblings and I remember the time well. She was filled with trepidation at the prospect of this meeting, but all turned out well and she was so glad to have met them all.

Crikey, I'm not sure what I would have done or said, had the same happened to me:)

bouicca21

Difficult one as you may all have completely different expectations of eachother. I know of a case where one wanted a full on relationship with the long lost sibling. The other wanted nothing to do with it, probably full of resentment at the situation.

Go along with no preconceptions.

harrys_nan

Go with an open mind look forward to the meeting and I truly hope it goes well for you.
My parents divorced when I was a baby, (mum was a war bride) she and I came back to the UK, I never met my dad until I was 40, I was accepted by a lot of my new family but not my half sister.