*Change of plan - and maybe some good news!*

Ellidee

:grouphug: Aw snags just want to send you a hug. You do seem to have a lot on your plate I haven't got any answers really except to say everything always seems so much worse at 3 o'clock in the morning. Also to tell you that you are one of my favourite people on here, please be kind to yourself. I hope you are feeling more optimistic today. XX

wok_boy

Snaggles,

Are you feeling any better this morning?

beanielou

Awww Snaggles
So sorry that you feel so 'down ' at the mo.
You have had such a lot happen in a short time.
Your grandma died
Ryans diagnosis
Natasha born
Stu's depression
Stu's redundancy
It takes time to work through one of these things far less 4/5 things.
You could maybe have a wee chat wth your health visitor.
Nothing else I can do except send you lots and lots of huggles.
Take lots of care hun.

hypno06

Another top tip from me:

Get some jaffa cakes in......the world seems so much better when you are eating choccy biscuits!

Seriously, though, hope you are ok this morning. We are worried about you xx

Call_That_Music?!?

Hi Snaggles,
I've never posted on your thread either but regularly read it and I always like seeing your posts on other peoples' threads - you seem such a warm, generous person and you help so many people out here in Ether-land!

I'm sorry you're feeling down yourself but as someone has already said you are not Superwoman and you have so many things to deal with and you ARE dealing with them - maybe your holiday will give you all the break you need. Perhaps a time for one of those hug-without-speaking-but-which-says-everything moments which would be a start for you and stu (sorry if that sounds weird,lol - anybody else know what i mean?!:o ).

I bet if you took a poll, most people on here would be able to sympathise with the "Somebody pleease look after me!" rant - the people on here tend to be the ones who have taken the initiative in the 'coping' department and it's great this site exists to keep everyone's spirits up when doubts/anger/f rustration creeps in. As it does. When you're not looking.

Anyway, I'll shut up now (what is it about t'internet that makes people so chatty:rolleyes: ).

Just sending a hug and a hope that you'll feel better soon, Snaggles! Maybe someone could send an SOS to lenny or SS ?!?

love
kx

ps the pic is lovely

Snaggles

Thank you so much for the lovely posts, I am really touched. I woke up this morning still feeling quite upset, ended up crying into my cornflakes but managed to pull myself together to get Ryan to school - I think he realised something was wrong because he came and sat on my knee and gave me a big cuddle - he didn't say anything but he didn't need to. I just hope he isn't worrying about it all day at school, or even worse feeling like it's something he's done (he tends to feel like he is to blame for anything and everything that goes wrong).

Since then I've been out for a long walk with Natasha in her pram, and have started to get things in perspective again. I feel a bit silly about being on here all ranty and tearful in the middle of the night, but it did help to get things out of my system, and all your lovely posts have made me realise I'm not alone, and I'm not going mad, no more so than usual anyway.:o

Stu has just rung me and he's finishing early because they are fairly quiet today (the Xmas rush isn't really in full flow just yet) - so he will be home in about half an hour, and we are going to go out for a drive. He's trying so hard to sort himself out, and I feel a bit guilty that I've been getting cross with him, so I think a big cuddle and some time together is needed. He's even mentioned us getting my Mum and Dad to look after the kids on Saturday (we're staying with them for a couple of days on the way to Wales) and going out for a meal or something.

Just to answer a few of the questions and reply to some of the comments:

Sophiesmum - It really does help to hear from other Mums who have brought up children with Aspergers - whether or not Ryan is diagnosed, I can tell that he definitely has a lot of the symptoms/traits so it's good to hear that it's not all doom and gloom.

Hypno - I think you are completely right, but the problem with going back to work is that I really don't like my job - some of the people I work with are lovely, but it's becoming more and more pressurised and sales orientated, and I'm just not a natural saleswoman, and feel quite uncomfortable with it. I wish I could find something else really, but financially I really need to hang in there a couple more years. But I will keep eating the jaffa cakes to ease the pain.

Bunny - Thanks, I am really looking forward to meeting you, and Ryan is really excited too - thank you for the lovely messages you have sent me.

Ellidee - That's lovely of you to say that, thank you - I am feeling more optimistic now, and normal service will shortly be resumed!

Beanie - Yes, I think it's the gradual build up of things that has made me feel down, I've been managing to cope and not let things get to me too much, but then last night suddenly it all got on top of me, and everything just seemed so horrible. I think I should avoid staying up on my own into the early hours, because it gives me too much time to dwell on things. I will mention it to the health visitor, although to be honest she is pretty spectacularly useless (although a very nice lady).

Wokboy - yes, I'm feeling much better now, thank you.

Call That Music - Thanks for your lovely comments, I know exactly what you mean about the 'hug without words'. Please don't 'shut up now', your post was really thoughtful, and it's nice to know I'm not alone - although setting SS and Lenny on me?? :eek: I haven't been THAT bad have I...lol! (only kidding guys, I love you both )

Anyway, sorry, this has turned into another mammoth post, so I'll stop talking now, but I really do want to thank all of you because you have made me feel much better (as you always do).

xxx

daphne_descends

Hi Snaggles, I've never posted on your thread either (virgin :eek:) and what I wanted to say - about three pages back - was how adorable the videos of Natasha are. It's a good thing I'm pregnant or I'd be broody as hell

Then I read your post above, I am so sorry to hear you feeling so down - like Call That Music I read your posts on other threads and see how you are always so thoughtful and caring and looking out for others.
I can't imagine juggling everything the way you are right now but I can relate to wanting someone to look out for you - in the rough patches of this pregnancy I have sometimes wondered who I am to lean on - we all need and deserve that - sometimes the people we love the most forget for a bit I suppose.

I don't want to go on because you say that you've cheered up a bit now - lovely to hear and I don't want to bring things back down again! I got a lump in my throat when I read about Ryan hugging you and not needing to say anything.

I sense a Jaffa Cake theme - you know they're scientifically proven to make things better, don't you?

hypno06

fac73 wrote: »

I sense a Jaffa Cake theme - you know they're scientifically proven to make things better, don't you?

Fac - you do realise that they are an essential of any "new mum's hospital bag"? I suggest that if you haven't got any in yet, you had better be stocking up sharpish.

daphne_descends

hypno06 wrote: »

Fac - you do realise that they are an essential of any "new mum's hospital bag"? I suggest that if you haven't got any in yet, you had better be stocking up sharpish.

(sorry Snaggles)

I did, look! http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y155/fsmos1/SP_A0133.jpg

Something happened :whistle: http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y155/fsmos1/SP_A0134.jpg

hypno06

fac73 wrote: »

(sorry Snaggles)

I did, look! http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y155/fsmos1/SP_A0133.jpg

Something happened :whistle: http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y155/fsmos1/SP_A0134.jpg

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