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Lunar_Eclipse

My advice: don't panic. There is no need to make drastic decisions at the moment. Try to avoid selling the house.

Knuckle down, focus on your health, your partner's mental health & job searching and enjoy your time together in cheap activities. Try not to worry or argue about money. Most of the time it all works out well.

Congratulations on the pregnancy. And the fact you think you live in your forever home. That is brilliant on both counts! There is never a good time for a baby and I believe most things happen for a reason.

Ride the wave/s. We've been in your position. And whilst I wouldn't have chosen it or wish to repeat it, we came out the other side better off financially.

LandyAndy

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

My advice: don't panic. There is no need to make drastic decisions at the moment. Try to avoid selling the house.

Knuckle down, focus on your health, your partner's mental health & job searching and enjoy your time together in cheap activities. Try not to worry or argue about money. Most of the time it all works out well.

Congratulations on the pregnancy. And the fact you think you live in your forever home. That is brilliant on both counts! There is never a good time for a baby and I believe most things happen for a reason.

Ride the wave/s. We've been in your position. And whilst I wouldn't have chosen it or wish to repeat it, we came out the other side better off financially.

This.


Panicking is very tempting but keeping a clear head and focussing is essential.

LannieDuck

How would your partner feel about being a stay at home dad?

If you can both cope on your wage, your partner could look for a temporary position for 9 months, then take over the baby-raising when your paid mat leave runs out. You'd be back to work full time, and maybe he could find an evening / weekend job to supplement.

DKLS

Beans27 wrote: »

Fair point. It definitely wouldn't be ideal, but thought we should consider the option.

He and his family had an online retailers - sold through Amazon, eBay etc. was doing very well a few years ago but all changed the last couple of years with a lot of cash flow problems.

What sort of jobs is he going for, and how is he pitching himself ?

A quick look on Indeed.com shows a large number of commerce related roles from admin level to snr management.

Ps congrats on the bun OP

DigForVictory

I'm very sorry to hear Himself is currently between jobs, but delighted to read you're pregnant!
Early times, so be gentle with yourself & shelve moving plans. It's all horribly stressful & really doesn't mix with concentrating on your first baby properly at all.
Himself's in a rough patch, but has you beside him & a child to look forward to? Deep calming breaths - odds are in your favour the hopes-&-dreams-&-plans aspect revs right back up again.
Forever houses tend to be adaptable. See how you go. Just look after your health & wishing you all the very best of luck!

Beans27

Thank you all, what lovely words and sentiments. Lunar Eclipse that just made me well up a bit (very unlike me!!) - you're right, most of the time it does work out alright and I'm sure a lot of other people have been in the same situation.


Agree Landy Andy - even minimum wage job would be ok - he is keen to look for a 'career' job, which is fine at the moment, but might have to be sacked off at some point - hopefully he will come to see that.


He is looking for either purchasing/ buying roles, or work in sound engineering (very niche I imagine, although he seems to be finding plenty to apply for).


Good idea on the SOA Money maker, I'm sure there are places we can cut back.


He would probably be quite keen on the idea of being a stay at home dad so that is an option. another thing going for us is that we have our families mostly in the area, so plenty of support.


Thanks again all, I feel a lot calmer for looking at the bigger picture :-) I tend to think everything must be done NOW :rotfl:

DKLS

Beans27 wrote: »

He is looking for either purchasing/ buying roles, or work in sound engineering (very niche I imagine, although he seems to be finding plenty to apply for).

Might be worth expanding his search from the purchasing/buying aspects to a platform and channel management with a focus on ecommerce. Seems to be plenty of jobs in ecommerce.

One of my colleagues does the channel management of Apple, Amazon and Google and she earns circa 50k plus package. So can be worthwhile.

Beans27

Thanks Landy Andy, no we are in in West Yorkshire

LandyAndy

Beans27 wrote: »

Thanks Landy Andy, no we are in in West Yorkshire

Ah! That might be tricky for a 6.00am start;).