Offered friend's job

Voyager2002

susieq87 wrote: »

i am hoping that when she goes into the meeting next week they do not tell her that they have offered me the job because it will really put me in a hard place

They certainly ought not to tell her that... doing so would be extremely unprofessional.

Topcat1982

susieq87 wrote: »

appreciate all the replies.

the friend in question can get quite erratic and has been known to speak her mind. I am a bit worried that she will feel like i stabbed her behind her back and tell everyone this when obviously this is not the case.

Wait, is this a long term friend or work colleague of 5 months? Did you know her before?

LittleVoice

Topcat1982 wrote: »

Wait, is this a long term friend or work colleague of 5 months? Did you know her before?

I really don't think it matters whether they have known each other since kindergarten or just for the last few months.


The other person is being let go because they are not performing well enough. The OP is considered to be a more appropriate employee for this role.


Remain friends (of whichever type) for the time being and see what happens after the friend is dismissed, being prepared to answer as innocently as possible.

Topcat1982

LittleVoice wrote: »

I really don't think it matters whether they have known each other since kindergarten or just for the last few months.
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I think it does, your lifetime BFF is more important than a job, a casual work acquaintance is not

AJ1982

susieq87 wrote: »

appreciate all the replies.

the friend in question can get quite erratic and has been known to speak her mind. I am a bit worried that she will feel like i stabbed her behind her back and tell everyone this when obviously this is not the case.

i am hoping that when she goes into the meeting next week they do not tell her that they have offered me the job because it will really put me in a hard place

Not really your problem they dont want her / she is rubbish at her job. Assuming you are just work friends, just keep quiet and accept the job as and when it becomes vacant.

She can scream and shout all she wants - end of the day, your family still gets fed. Sorry this sounds a bit harsh, but assuming there is no close friendship, just look out for No 1. I'm sure she would do the exact same

LittleVoice

Topcat1982 wrote: »

I think it does, your lifetime BFF is more important than a job, a casual work acquaintance is not

So


if it is a "lifetime BFF" as far as the OP is concerned, would you recommend they walk away from the job in order to be out of work at the same time as the friend and spend a lot of time explaining to potential employers that, because of supposed loyality to a friend, they left a job where they were lined up for better things.

susieq87

Topcat1982 wrote: »

Wait, is this a long term friend or work colleague of 5 months? Did you know her before?

work friend. we don't talk outside of work apart from the odd drinks on a friday evenings.

BoJangles_2

A difficult situation to be in but out of your control. I would think it highly unprofessional for your bosses to discuss your promotion in any discussion with your friend. Therefore I would suggest that you deny any prior knowledge and if she doesn't believe you, she isn't a great friend in the first place.

sammyjammy

IMO this isn't a friend its a friendly colleague. Do what is right for you, don't tell her what you have been told, its in confidence.

Topcat1982

susieq87 wrote: »

work friend. we don't talk outside of work apart from the odd drinks on a friday evenings.

OK, I wouldn't bother too much about this. You probably won't see her again, she may not even find out