Neighbour pulling a fast one?

Out,_Vile_Jelly

Doing anything to clearly defined communal areas without obtaining permission or even asking first are the actions of a bully. Bullies bluster and can be intimidating, but you are legally in the right to calmly and politely refuse. They are being unreasonable. You are not. Keep everything in writing and check whether you get legal advice at work or with your home insurance- often just mentioning this makes people back off.

KRB2725

If a lease had to be changed and/or there were significant changes to the property, would you not be obliged to seek the permission of your mortgage lender?

If so, you could use this as a reason to say no - if you feel the need to give a reason.

moneyistooshorttomention

Another day and another realisation as to just how insidious the assumptions of Try On Neighbours can be at making one act differently to any rational/fair decision that would otherwise be made.

Its only just struck me today, for instance, that Try On Neighbours have been able to get me to arrange how I have things in my garden differently to what I would decide of myself (all else being equal) and its been that way for months (well = tough. Its my garden, so I decide how it looks). Duh!:o Some pennies take an awful long time to drop - as I questioned myself whether the way I had arranged things was exactly how I would do left to myself and had to admit that the answer was "No". That saw me re-arranging things more as I would have decided in the first place (ie left to myself without pressure being exerted on me, ie because the neighbours want my garden to look the way they want).

Yep...already my garden feels noticeably that little bit more what I feel comfortable with and recognise as a "normal garden".

I am now kicking my own backside very firmly at the fact I have even allowed "Those sort of looks to affect my decisions".

So - thanks for the very salutary reminder that my garden is indeed my garden and they have no say about how I have it (as long as I'm being reasonable in a fair-minded persons terms - eg no leylandii for instance). I hadn't really realised how weak I was still being...:o

moneyistooshorttomention

How's it going - at dealing with that neighbour OP?