Have you 'lodged' with your parents? How much did you pay?

missbiggles1

greensalad wrote: »

To be honest, If you're going to change them the market share you may as well just tell them to get their own place. I thought the whole point of living with parents was to help them save money and get a start in life. If I wanted to move in with my Mum and she wanted me to pay market share then why on earth would I? Why not just leave?

If you need the money, take the money that would leave you out of pocket. If you don't need the money, and want them to move in so you can help them get a start in life then why on earth would you profit off them?

The point of adults paying their own way is for them to be independent - whether the parents need the money or not is irrelevant.

sniggings

t0rt0ise wrote: »

I seem to be the mean one here. My son and I share house, couldn't afford to live alone in London, and we split the rent and bills down the middle. Mostly we cater for ourselves for food and things although we aren't too strict on that.

think you are missing the point...the OP lives alone (maybe with a partner) so is already funding the place herself, the son is only going to stay short term, that's a lot different to your situation.

OP, if they are good savers,explain you will not charge them if they save it, if not good savers, you charge rent then return all of it when they leave, they pay for their own food.

I really can't understand a parent that charges their child rent.

ManuelG

missbiggles1 wrote: »

The point of adults paying their own way is for them to be independent - whether the parents need the money or not is irrelevant.

But it is logical that no sane person wants to live with their Mum and Dad when they become adults.

Sometimes, life dictates you have to.

And yes I take the point if the parent can't afford to (my Granddad supported his parents once he got to... 14) then you can't necessarily do a favour, but why on earth push them away if they need help and you can help them?

matttye

I still live with my mother and pay £200 per month. I used to pay it to her directly but now I pay for all bills except rent, gas and Council Tax, and it works out at £200 ish per month.

I want to move out but I'm training to be a Chartered Legal Executive and paying for my own study as I don't want to be in debt to my boss when I leave, so a lot of my money is going on that at the minute. Still managing to save some each month towards a mortgage deposit though.

apple_muncher

Thank you for all the useful advice and suggestions and personal stories. They are much appreciated. Thank you to those of you who have read my opening post and commented fairly and without judging me.

KJX

My situation was a bit odd.

I came home as a single mother.
My mum retired as she'd lost her hearing.
I was working full time. She looked after my son.
I bought a chunk of the weekly shop.
I did my own laundry and cleaning.

I paid £840 per month (not including the shopping I did).

Like I say - a bit unusual.

tanith

My grownup daughter had to move in with us after her relationship finished, she pays us £200 a month but buys everything else that she uses herself , I don't do anything for her she cooks and washes her own clothes and takes a turn to clean the bathroom. We want her to be able to save so she can afford to rent somewhere herself hence the low rent which more than covers what she uses I'm sure.

missbiggles1

tanith wrote: »

My grownup daughter had to move in with us after her relationship finished, she pays us £200 a month but buys everything else that she uses herself , I don't do anything for her she cooks and washes her own clothes and takes a turn to clean the bathroom. We want her to be able to save so she can afford to rent somewhere herself hence the low rent which more than covers what she uses I'm sure.

Your gaff, your choice, but if it only covers what she uses, it isn't actually rent.

tanith

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Your gaff, your choice, but if it only covers what she uses, it isn't actually rent.

I guess you are right but we actually have no wish to make money out of the deal just want help her make the best of a bad situation and so she feels that her contribution towards utilities is appreciated..;)

FutureGirl

When we move into OH Dad's place, we paid £300.00 per month as 'rent' (This was because his bills didn't really go up by us moving in). We then bought our own food, and did our own cooking.

When I lived at home with my Mum, I paid £250.00 per month, but that included my food etc.