should i just go for a new job?

angeldeelite

i started a new job in April this year, however my circumstances have changed since then and i'm struggling to have a life with the amount i earn.

I split up with my boyfriend so am now paying more in rent and more in debt repayments. i do earn enough to cover the payments but leaves me with very little for the month to have any fun (and being 25 a newly single, staying in every single weekend doesn't really appeal!!).

I'm looking into finding a part time bar job for weekends but i'm not sure my work would be happy if it started affecting my main job (might have to be available at weekends sometimes).

i'm really unsure what to do. I could bring it up with my boss and tell her my situation but there is no chance they are going to up my wage as the post has only been set up since April. Do i just speak to her and say i might need to find a new job or just go ahead and look anyway. I have found one which is 5k more than i get now - pretty big difference! But i really hate letting people down, especially as I've not been there long and my boss has been great with me thru the break up etc.

what would everybody else do?

chevalier

Thats a toughy.

You might want to first go through your outgoings to ensure that they are all the cheapest that they can be. Ie check you are with the cheapest gas/electric/home and contents insurance, car insurance companies. It may have changed if you are now single. If any companies are cheaper than check out www.quidco.com to see if any of the new companies do cashback, then you can switch and have some extra money too.

I know that if you are looking for another partner staying in is a pain, but how about asking your girlfriends over for a dvd/drinks and nibbles evening. Still get to see people but cheaper than going out.

Ref the new job, hmm. I think that I would be honest with your boss. Say that you really love the job, but since the split, the wage they are paying is leaving you very short, so regretfully you may have to leave. You may be surprised at the response. If it isn't positive then apply for the job with the pay rise, you do have to look after you.

If the bills etc are too much now, could you get a lodger (check if you can sub let though), ie another girl to share the rent with?
best of luck
chev

Shineyhappy

Hi,

Sorry to hear about your break up, something similar happened to me last year, hence the signature!

I split up with my ex six months after we bought a flat together, with help and support from my colleagues I bought him out and rented the spare room out, which was nice to have some company as well as the extra cash. If you want a lodger make sure you take your time getting someone who you think would suit you.

I spoke to my boss and told him that I needed to be able to afford all the bills and I couldnt so he sorted a payrise for me, which was great, but he does know that keeping my flat is my main priority and if my bills go up so must my pay.

I really like my job, but I know I could get more money at a different company, eventually I know I will leave this job, but the support has been worth staying for as I know whatever else goes wrong at least work is ok.

terakris

Sorry to hear about your situation - it can be very hard to deal with all the extra payments when you split up and day to day living can become a chore, always counting the pennies However it does seem that the only shortage you have is 'fun' money, which can be saved up and blown in 1 go every now and then if thats how you wanna do things... having a heavy social life can be expensive for sure.

Its one thing talking to your boss about going for a job (which can be a problem if they turn on you) but having an offer on the table and then speaking to your boss is another.

There is no law saying you cant go for a job interview and turn it down if you dont want it, many people see the job interview as a test to see if they company wants them... thats a fair point but do you want the company?

Being in a situation where money is the driving force is very difficult, many of us face this (including myself for many years) where you are only making just enough to cover your monthly bills/debts.

Personally i would go for the job and see how it goes, dont mention to anyone about it and wait to see if the position is offered - if it is (fingers crossed for you) then you can let them know you wish to think about it, at which time you get the offer in writing and then speak to your boss, explaining the situation that while you love your current job with the problems financially you find it hard to stay where you are. They may be able to match your new job offers salery, or at least help you out a bit at which point its up to you to choose what would be best for you.

Dont move to a new job JUST for the money, as if you dont enjoy the job your going to be very down.

A weekend job might be goob but always remember you will get taxed extra, so you need to ensure that it will still be worth all the hours you put in - also dont let the part time job affect your full time, as going in half asleep is gonna make a bad impression. Also the additional job is goign to eat into your social hours which is what it seems you would like more money for.

Sorry for rambling on and i hope that you get your situation sorted out.

Good luck and keep smiling.

angeldeelite

thanks for all your advice.

It's me that's a lodger so no option to gain extra money that way. Bills are not too bad but i'm paying £110 a month more in rent and council tax than i was so not much can be done there. It's also the debt repayments taht are screwing me (as i now have nobody to split them with!!) so again, not much can be done.

My conscience is just getting the better of me. I've only been in the post 4 months - and it was a new post so it's new to everybody in the organisation. My only saving grace may be to ask for a new job title as my work doesn't really match what my job title says and i have been introduced to people externally as something much higher! So i might have a chat with her about my situation and mention this. I do think it's unlikely they will change it as budgets have been cut drastically but i guess you never know.

I'd feel so bad leaving now but I guess you can't help circumstances though and i would never have thought of leaving otherwise. God after the break up counselling then this, she'll probably be glad to see the back of me!! LOL

mitty_2

I'd go for the other job and then ask for a rise.
Lets face it, if they needed to re-structure/save money they would probably make you redundant and not worry about it......you have to look out for yourself!

NewToThis_3

Not a nice position to be in. If you feel that your boss has been supportive so far, I would be honest with him/her. However, you must put yourself first to some extent. For how long can you live like this? Do you really want to seek bar work if you can avoid doing so? You will almost certainly be required to work Friday and Saturday nights so bang goes the social life, anyway. Does the job paying 5k more appeal to you? If so, I think I would go for it. At least you would be self-reliant and have time for a social life. Good luck in whatever you decide.

izzybusy23

angeldeelite wrote: »

i started a new job in April this year, however my circumstances have changed since then and i'm struggling to have a life with the amount i earn.

I split up with my boyfriend so am now paying more in rent and more in debt repayments. i do earn enough to cover the payments but leaves me with very little for the month to have any fun (and being 25 a newly single, staying in every single weekend doesn't really appeal!!).

I'm looking into finding a part time bar job for weekends but i'm not sure my work would be happy if it started affecting my main job (might have to be available at weekends sometimes).

i'm really unsure what to do. I could bring it up with my boss and tell her my situation but there is no chance they are going to up my wage as the post has only been set up since April. Do i just speak to her and say i might need to find a new job or just go ahead and look anyway. I have found one which is 5k more than i get now - pretty big difference! But i really hate letting people down, especially as I've not been there long and my boss has been great with me thru the break up etc.

what would everybody else do?

Hi there

I think bar work is an excellent way to earn extra money and meet new people. I did it for many years when I was lodging.. mainly to get out in the evenings. Its serves as a social life too, especially if you get a job in a local where everybody knows everyone.. you get chatting, drinks bought an earn money.. you may even find Mr Right there.

Also I have been sooo loyal to my employers in the past and really it did me no favours. It kept me at the same level for years, hardly any payrises, certainly no promotion because I was good at my job and they wanted to keep me where I was. Being loyal is a good trait, but can hold you back sometimes so you must put yourself first. I agree with going for the other job first BEFORE mentioning it to your employer as you don't want to get their back up and then not get the job.. that would be a nightmare situation!

Good luck!

Panicker_2

I have been with my present employer as HR Manager for 8 years and they have been brilliant through family issues during that time. However, I am constantly worried about my debt situation after cutting back I found I was still sinking in deeper every month and decided the only thing for it was to earn more if I couldn't spend less.
I approached my boss who was very understanding, said they didn't want me to go, but as I already knew the company is downsizing so a pay rise was never really on the cards.
I'm hoping that with my new job, a) I'll earn more, b) I'll meet lots more new people and c) becasue my routine is changing I'm looking at it as an opportunity to change my bad spending and bad eating habits too!.
I'd suggest you actually apply for and get the other job before approaching your boss, as one of the others posters said, you have to think of yourself and having an alternative wil make you more confident when you speak to your boss; explain the situation and be honest, tell them you don't want to leave and your only issue is financial, then hopefully you'll get a straight response. If you want some hgelp applying for jobs, PM me. I write CV's as a sideline so I'd be happy to write you a great CV at no cost at all - always happy to help a fellow MSE forum user. - Good Luck.

HelzBelz

Apply for the new job and if you get it then speak to your current boss. As an interim measure get the bar job, most bars understand that they aren't the staffs main employer and not going for it just because you "might have to be available at weekends sometimes" for your main employer isn't a reason you can't get paid for a night out the rest of the time

m.r.davies

If your boss has been great then i'm sure your friendship is good enough that they will understand.

Depends on company, some companies have pay scales etc, and it could be that you might be able to get the rise
however, some companies are quite ridgid and chances are you wont be able to go up, unless the company needs you (doubtful if you haven't been there long)

Ask your boss what the pay scale is and what you CAN earn
if the future looks bleek then leave.

all the best