Pending Divorce

justme111

Be prepared that he will not want divorce and moving out if all that materialised on his side were just moaning how bad his life is.

Laurensalive

This is from someone who has been through it.
What ever you decide make sure you know where your marriage certificate is. As you cannot get divorced without it. When I went through mine, I made sure I had all the paperwork needed. Passport, ID. Bills etc banking details. Cash too, as a solicitor can stop accounts.
Under the data protection act, if your name is on a bill then the named person is liable for the final bill. So make sure you have a copy off all the utility bills, and start putting this information together. Expect things to be messy. It is a solicitors job. Try not to get upset yet. Do the practical things.
I went to a solicitors which had a speciality in family law.
Work things out in your head first. Do not let him get his own way.

Good luck. I found the divorce easy, but the after effects and beginning a life is the harder part. Divorce was the best thing I have ever done. I waited until my youngest was in uni then divorce.

Mojisola

Laurensalive wrote: »

What ever you decide make sure you know where your marriage certificate is. As you cannot get divorced without it.

You can buy another one if you have mislaid the first one you got.

rpc

If your name reflects where you live, bear in mind that a lot of advice given here is based on English law and there are some major differences in Scotland.

There's a summary here: http://www.familylawweek.co.uk/site.aspx?i=ed81249

The gift from your mum could be excluded from the marital assets if you haven't done anything with it.

If you don't settle the finances as part of the divorce proceedings, you can't come back and do it later.

Another major difference is that the settlement will be based on the assets at the date of separation and not when it finally goes to court. That can make no difference, or it can make a big difference.

Floxxie

rpc wrote: »

If your name reflects where you live, bear in mind that a lot of advice given here is based on English law and there are some major differences in Scotland.

There's a summary here: http://www.familylawweek.co.uk/site.aspx?i=ed81249

The gift from your mum could be excluded from the marital assets if you haven't done anything with it.

If you don't settle the finances as part of the divorce proceedings, you can't come back and do it later.

Another major difference is that the settlement will be based on the assets at the date of separation and not when it finally goes to court. That can make no difference, or it can make a big difference.

That's why I suggested Wikivorce as there are people on there who can advise if the OP is divorcing in Scotland (but it also covers England and Wales)