Just bought my first house and regret it

DRP

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Nodding along to the expensive/major issues that weren't apparent..

Yep my list is very similar.

I'm jealous of anyone who moves into a house that is *just* dirty and dated...

duchy

It's a bit of an anti climax finally moving in after the hunt, then the highs and lows of waiting to exchange then waiting for compleation.

Some of your list makes little sense eg there was only one toilet and the bathroom is small -those things haven't changed since you viewed the property.

I'd certainly get the oven cleaned professionally -and possibly hire a cleaning for a deep clean if you don't want to roll up your sleeves with a big bucket of flash and some sugar soap -and definitely get all the windows open!

I'd make three lists - need to do at once, need doing soon -and need to do eventually- everyone has their own things that drive them nuts and need to do them asap but a deep clean and some fresh air will make a huge difference to how you view things .

Once you've made it yours with you own things and colour choices you'll feel much better about it.

Davesnave

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Now what sex would psycho neighbour be Dave?

I'm not telling you; he might recognise himself.

moneyistooshorttomention

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:;)

PixelPound

I think this thread is useful for many FTB. We may well feel like this (though still awaiting exchange), especially as we have yet to see it without furniture in it (or without someone else's furniture in it - my OH was better at seeing past furniture on viewings, lol).

It is the daunting, but sounds like OP needs someone to bounce ideas off - maybe a friend or a work colleague who has gone through it. Just someone grounding the fears and a new set of eyes on everything.

beefturnmail

Sounds like classic buyer's remorse to me

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Buyer's_remorse

Most of the problems you describe can be fixed

stassy23

Im in the processing of buying our first home and feel the same have i done the right thing but i know deep down we have as we have been desperate to own our home and make it our own for our children. I love our rented house now it's newish, modern and huge the house we've brought needs cosmetic and smaller but can't waiy to put our stamp on it fed up of magnolia and will be nice for the children to have their own decorated bedrooms how they like it.
Im sure ill be feeling the same when we move in too as i will want everything doing right away and know it will take time and money.
Im sure you will feel happier soon.

red_imps_2003

Just to reiterate what others have already posted. I felt the same when I moved into my first owned property. As pointed out, you build it up so much in advance that walking into an empty shell (with all the faults more clearly visible) can be a total and depressing anti-climax. You do tend to notice hundreds of little things you missed on the viewing when you have actually have time to sit/stand and look around and even the things you had noticed that you thought you could live with can bother you more than you expected.

I know exactly what you mean about the smells, but they do fade fairly quickly once you are living and cooking in there yourself. Even decorating a small area or one room will override existing smells with fresher ones.

The bottom line is that a house does not become a 'home' immediately; it takes time. I am confident the anxiety and depression you are feeling will pass fairly swiftly once the initial shock has worn off.

I don't know if the OP is revisiting this thread (sometimes people just need to get things off their chest and feel better afterwards) but it would be great to hear back in a few weeks/months to find out how you are feeling after the opportunity to adjust.

mustang121

Seems to be the risk. You either buy a new (or fairly young house), but have a very large mortgage. Alternatively you buy an older house and risk repair and maintenance, but at least you have a smaller mortgage. Although all house obvousily need repair and maintenance and even new builds aren't immune.


We bought an older house and whilst its perfectly liveable, the bathroom and kitchen are a little dated. I sometimes wished we waited and bought younger, but we were only getting older and I don't know whether we could have afforded the repayments and still have a life. Ultimately we feel grateful to have a house we can call our own.


As time goes on we are slowly updating it and redecorating the house and garden. Although the house has been put on hold due to our wedding plans. Ultimately what we want before we have children is a safe, warm and comfortable house and child's bedroom.


Don't despair. It's still your house (castle) and as time progresses you will learn all types of new DIY skills you never had before. It's still better than paying rent and making some other pratt richer.

ndi149

I remember that feeling of just being apprehensive on the way to pick up the keys and when I walked into my flat I burst into tears and definitely had an OMG what have I done moment!

Fast forward 7 years and I've just emptied the flat after selling it. I did a video walk around and I felt so sad, that I was leaving the place I'd called a home for 7 years.

It's amazing how quickly you can make a place a home and before you know any regrets you had have gone.

Chin up and get your friends to help you tart it up and before you know it, it will be your palace.