Vent at Life

POPPYOSCAR

Just want to let off steam to life.


So unhappy right now finding it hard to even function, just found out my brother's brain tumour has come back.


Its is all too much to bear , lost a friend to cancer last week and a niece and nephew in the last 11 months.


I cannot sit still but cannot do anything at the same time.

bod1467

Life sucks at times, but all anyone can do is make the best of what faces them.

I lost both my parents almost exactly a year apart, and both to the Big C. (Mam died July '88 aged 48, and Dad died August '89 aged 51). Whilst it was a long time ago I still feel it at times.

The key is to allow yourself to grieve ... none of this British stiff upper lip nonsense ... and make sure you don't spend extended periods alone.

POPPYOSCAR

bod1467 wrote: »

Life sucks at times, but all anyone can do is make the best of what faces them.

I lost both my parents almost exactly a year apart, and both to the Big C. (Mam died July '88 aged 48, and Dad died August '89 aged 51). Whilst it was a long time ago I still feel it at times.

The key is to allow yourself to grieve ... none of this British stiff upper lip nonsense ... and make sure you don't spend extended periods alone.

I know.


It just seems like one thing after another.


He is going to have another operation within the next two weeks, so worried for him.


Do not know how my sister will cope as my nephew only died at Christmas.


I find I am better alone, I retreat into myself and cannot cope being around people.


Will probably spend hours on here to escape the reality.

LilElvis

You just have to deal with it the best way you can - for some it means throwing themselves into work and activities, others prefer to bottle it up ..... there isn't a "right" or "wrong" way to react when a bombshell goes off in your life.

I'm waiting for my husband to fall to pieces, in fact I'm just on edge anticipating some sort of reaction. His mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer a couple of weeks ago, but I think at the moment he is hoping the diagnosis is incorrect as it has been based on scans and probability alone, a biopsy isn't feasible and neither is any treatment. This came the day after my Dad finally had the all clear after a 2 year battle with Colo-rectal cancer .... after already beating prostate cancer a few years before. My husband lost his father to cancer over 30 years ago, before I knew him, and I know that this profoundly affected him. I was the one who told him that his sister's cancer had returned, and then that the treatment had failed and she had a matter of weeks. I was mourning losing a close friend (I met my husband through her) whilst trying to support him. It was an awful time for both of us, and now it is going to happen all over again. Throw into the mix his sister's vile husband who contacted MILs financial adviser literally days after her diagnosis trying to find out about the will and trusts. The day to day care and practical stuff is going to fall to me, which won't be easy as she lives an hour's drive away and we have a 5 year old and no other family locally to help us.

God, I'm dreading the next year!

I guess I needed to vent too.

POPPYOSCAR

I know life can be so cruel and you just have to get on with it.


Other people can be insensitive and make it worse.


Sorry to hear of your situation, I know there are lots of others going through horrible things.


My heart goes out to them as well.

nearlyrich

My heart goes out to both of you Poppyoscar and LilElvis it is a really tough time when loved ones are ill and you lose them and Cancer is a dreadful disease that takes people far too young. I know words don't make it better but you can come on here and say anything you need to say and 99 times out a hundred there will be someone to comfort you. It's coming up to 25 years this month since my dad died aged just 55 and as I am almost 54 that feels way too young, I still mourn all the things he missed like his grandchildren and now some great grandchildren coming along. Hope you have someone to comfort you xxx

hollydays

(((Hugs)))

foxtrotoscar_2

I'm sure and indeed certain there are many MSE'rs whose thoughts are with you.


Take Care.

sidefx

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I know.


It just seems like one thing after another.


He is going to have another operation within the next two weeks, so worried for him.


Do not know how my sister will cope as my nephew only died at Christmas.


I find I am better alone, I retreat into myself and cannot cope being around people.


Will probably spend hours on here to escape the reality.

That's what I do, so you are not alone.

Pollycat

foxtrotoscar wrote: »

I'm sure and indeed certain there are many MSE'rs whose thoughts are with you.

You're absolutely correct.

I hope it helps both Poppyoscar & LilElvis (and anyone else) to post about their feelings at such a difficult time.

POPPYOSCAR

Pollycat wrote: »

You're absolutely correct.

I hope it helps both Poppyoscar & LilElvis (and anyone else) to post about their feelings at such a difficult time.

Yes it does Pollycat.


Sometimes I feel like I am in a dream and it is all unreal.


My beautiful niece aged 30 who would not hurt a fly was diagnosed with cancer in January last year and died in the june that year. Then in December, just before christmas my lovely funny nephew suddenly collapsed and died at the age of 39 from a bleed to his brain. We also had to put one of our dogs to sleep the same week Friend dies from bowel cancer last week.Now this with my brother.


Trying to look on the positive side at least they are going to operate again and it is in a position they can get to. He will not be able to have radiotherapy again though as it is in the same place. His body scan was clear so that is a relief.As I said to him, you got through it before and you will again.


Got a really busy weekend ahead, daughter dancing at a fete tomorrow and sunday helping out at a football tournament and funday to raise money for charity organised by the football team my nephew used to play in, in his memory.


Would really rather be at home.