The easiest way out?

TillyTrippit

Hi Wolfman - huge hug to you - I'm so sorry that you are feeling this way.

You have been given some great advice on here - please go to your GP.

When you feel that your world is crashing down around your ears it is quite normal to feel like this. On way that people are counselled to get through these dreadful times is to work hard on forgetting the big picture for a time - work on finding something positive in each hour - could be as simple as there being a chocolate biscuit left at a time when they're normally all gone - someone cooked you a meal - OK it is egg and chips done by a parent rather than oysters served up by a supermodel, but it shows someone gives a stuff - beats the hell out of there being no one!!

You take care, focus on the tiny positive things until you realise that life is worth living and fighting for.

Tilly
xx

hypno06

Hope things don't seem so bleak this evening. Pop on to let us know how you are.

1_step_closer

I hope you will be ok...................the forum will help you as much as it can.

tallyhoh

Sorry that you are feeling so crap. There are loads of people here to help.

XXX

bookemdano

Hi Wolfman
sorry to hear you are feeling so rubbish. I DO know how your feeling as I was in your situation a few years ago. I split with my ex and ended up back in my old room at my parents, I felt the same as you are feeling now but I got through it with help from friends etc. I do have times when I'm lonely and sad but those times pass. Your have your whole life ahead of you and things will get better, really they will, how do you think your parents and family would feel if they lost you? Talk to friends or post on here, there is always a friendly ear to listen. Chin up mate.

patwa_2

Hi, I can't say I've been in your situation but I can empathise with the thoughts of just wanting it all to end.

Everyone above has posted good advice, but I would also add that no matter how hard it may be it's important not to blame yourself. It's very easy to start over-critiquing oneself, asking lots of what if's and maybe's, and soon you're questioning every decision you ever made in an ever spiralling circle of depression.

There are clearly lots of people who've been in your situation, who can empathise with you and who would I'm sure be more than happy to help you with emotional and other support. You're not alone and should not feel that way. Then again, telling you how you should feel and what you actually do feel are two separate things.

Please take things at your own pace. Don't feel pressured or rushed into anything, and as said above if you have someone close to you that you can trust, or even someone just totally random you can offload your worries to to get it off your chest. I applaud you for having the courage and strength to post on here, it can't have been easy admitting this and you've already taken the first step back up the ladder.

Take care and all the best.

H.

BWZN93

I can only echo the above posters and say that I feel for you. Ive been in a similar situation (even tried the suicide - not a pleasant experience and one I do not recommend). Things WILL get better, I promise you. My darkest days were almost 10 years ago now, and every single year has got progressively better.

Rather than looking at things as being 'the end', treat this as a whole new chapter of your life, its an opportunity to become a whole new person - the one YOU want to be. There is so much help and support available to enable you to take your life where you want to go, you just need to think about how you want your life to be and choose this path. Give yourself small and achieveable targets to work towards, and try and stay focussed on those goals. Please visit a doctor even if you dont want to go down an anti-depressant route as they can often suggest other ways of coping and are a real source of good information. Please dont dismiss medication out of hand though - its not a quick fix for everything but some people (me included) have had wonderful results.

Other points to mention would be to try and stick to a regular routine (lack of sleep is a bad idea) and get some fresh air every day (I know you are injured - are you able to leave the house unassisted?), and post on here so we can help you in any way we can. Accept this period of your life as a chance to get well, relax, and work on a plan to take your life forward. You are more than welcome to PM me if you want to. If things become unbearable then please call the samaritans before you do anything else.

Best wishes hun

Jo x