help me help my cousin in care

bashbash

Lostinrates how is sure start maternity grant hers they are there for the mother to buy essentials for the baby. Thank you for all of your replies but I only wanted to know and understand the legal side of this

caprikid1

I know its not really relevant to this thread but I have followed the adoption process of a few friends and I just find the whole situation very sad on both the side of the loving parents wanting to provide homes and children looking for a stable home.


The system of adoption needs reviewing.

Rambosmum

bashbash wrote: »

Lostinrates how is sure start maternity grant hers they are there for the mother to buy essentials for the baby. Thank you for all of your replies but I only wanted to know and understand the legal side of this

hers as in your cousins. The foster parent shouldn't have anything to do with it - does your cousin have her own bank account?

missbiggles1

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I know a family that fosters and I was shocked to learn just how much money they earn.


Their daughter is now considering giving up her job, getting a place of her own and fostering herself.


So while undoubtedly there are those that do it as a vocation there are those that see it as easy money.

It doesn't really matter whether you foster as a "vocation" or for the money (which isn't that high and you earn every penny) as long as you do the job well.

missbiggles1

lostinrates wrote: »

Rambosmum wrote: »

lostinrates wrote: »

This to me sounds odd.

There are easier ways to make money than sharing your home with any one, let alone a teenager who clearly doesn't respect or like you!



That's just awful. :(

My husband and I decided not to foster because of my health situation. We felt it was too big a commitment and children were to important to have a foster parent who wasn't that fit and energetic.

How crazy that adoption is so difficult, when children in a stable loving unit adapt well to various situations, while fostering, where children are likely to have hugely great needs of varying sorts can be of such a low standard.

Adoption isn't particularly difficult and the checks that are made and the training you have to do are only marginally more complicated than those undertaken by foster carers. Some foster carers go on to adopt the children in their care and some adoptive parents end up fostering long term rather than adopting the child.

sheramber

Adoption isn't particularly difficult?

Try telling that to someone adopting.

Members of my family spent two years going through the adoption process.

Because the adoption societies had a child which they could not match with exisitng adopters these family memebers were asked to foster him while still going through the adoption process.

It was several months later before they were approved to adopt him.

missbiggles1

sheramber wrote: »

Adoption isn't particularly difficult?

Try telling that to someone adopting.

Members of my family spent two years going through the adoption process.

Because the adoption societies had a child which they could not match with exisitng adopters these family memebers were asked to foster him while still going through the adoption process.

It was several months later before they were approved to adopt him.

I've been through the adoption process and had children placed with us for adoption, so I say that from experience.

From the time we first enquired about it to the time when the children came to live with us was less than a year, the time from making a the formal application to be adoptive parents to actually meeting the children was about 6 months.

toniq

You need to call a meeting with the social worker only they will be able to answer your questions as they will know the case.

And all blaming it on a stroppy teen? How do you know?

I was in care for many years of my childhood and had a foster family that only had me and another girl so they could pay their bills, they made it clear and we were free to do as we wanted, which we did and promptly both ended up back in care homes.

Which I preferred as I knew the structure and felt safer.

lynsayjane

It's also important to identify which part of the UK you are in when asking this as Scotland has a very different system to England.

I believe it would depend on whether the baby is in the care system or if she is in your cousins care. However if your cousin did leave care taking the baby without the approval of the social work I can imagine she would quickly become a looked after child.