Inheritance when separated , could I claim ?

Guest101

Need-2-sort-my-money-out wrote: »

Thank you for your helpful post .........

Trying to put it into perspective for you.

You cant claim the moral marriage high ground if you've had another partner in the last 8 years.

It's not wrong. But what is wrong is using your 'marriage' when you've hardly honoured your vows.

Need-2-sort-my-money-out

Im trying to financially secure monies for my CHILDREN ......The ones that he brought into the world with me , the ones hes never paid a penny for since he left ......is that morally wrong .......Im not here to argue , just to get some support & guidance ....

TBagpuss

Celibacy or not is totally irrelevant.
A court what look at what is legall y appropriate, not seek to impose their view of what is or is not moral.

The legal position is that you can make a claim. Whether or not it is successful will depend on a range of issues including your *current* (not past) needs, your ex's current needs and resources, the amount of the inheritance (both absolutely and in context of your and his finances and needs)

Unfortunately his failure to support the children in the past does not mean that you will get, in effect, back payments for those years - at the time, he didn't have the money to pay you.

I think it is fairly unlikely that a court would give you anything. It may be worth trying to speak to him informally and see whether he is willing to do anything directly for the children, but to be honest, I would not hold me breath, if I were you.

Need-2-sort-my-money-out

TBagpuss wrote: »

Celibacy or not is totally irrelevant.
A court what look at what is legall y appropriate, not seek to impose their view of what is or is not moral.

The legal position is that you can make a claim. Whether or not it is successful will depend on a range of issues including your *current* (not past) needs, your ex's current needs and resources, the amount of the inheritance (both absolutely and in context of your and his finances and needs)

Unfortunately his failure to support the children in the past does not mean that you will get, in effect, back payments for those years - at the time, he didn't have the money to pay you.

I think it is fairly unlikely that a court would give you anything.


It may be worth trying to speak to him informally and see whether he is willing to do anything directly for the children, but to be honest, I would not hold me breath, if I were you.

Thank you for your reply , you explained exactly what I wanted , is it legally appropriate , I didnt come here to be judged on my morals .

Yes I realise I cant claim back pay for CSA , i knew i didnt stand a cat in hells chance of getting any before so didnt pursue it .

Mediation is something I shall look into .
My only thoughts are for my children & how after all these yrs I feel its morally right he shows some form of support .

Need-2-sort-my-money-out

You enjoy your popcorn , not sure why people have to be so rude and unhelpful ....

FBaby

But one of your children is an adult now and the other not far of it. The adult one is expected to look after themselves. It is a nice gesture for parents to share inheritance but not something they have to do. My parents love me but when they got inheritance from their parents I didn't see a penny of it although I could have done with some of it and it didn't cross my mind a second that I should. I don't understand why you think your children or at least your adult one should be owed anything.

Mrshaworth2b

Guest101 wrote: »

Trying to put it into perspective for you.

You cant claim the moral marriage high ground if you've had another partner in the last 8 years.

It's not wrong. But what is wrong is using your 'marriage' when you've hardly honoured your vows.

Honoured your vows..... so now you know all about their marriage breakdown as well?

How about he hasn't honoured being a father and providing for his children?

ampersand

Need-2-sort-my-money-out wrote: »

You enjoy your popcorn , not sure why people have to be so rude and unhelpful ....

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Unfortunately, as you clearly foresaw, the type of question you posed brings them all out.
You can close the Thread yourself - might be wise - then go to a source of correct, legal advice. Start with CAB.

brewthebear

But they are not children 21 yr old clearly an adult when is 17 yr old 18 ?

Guest101

Need-2-sort-my-money-out wrote: »

Thank you for your reply , you explained exactly what I wanted , is it legally appropriate , I didnt come here to be judged on my morals .

Yes I realise I cant claim back pay for CSA , i knew i didnt stand a cat in hells chance of getting any before so didnt pursue it .

Mediation is something I shall look into .
My only thoughts are for my children & how after all these yrs I feel its morally right he shows some form of support .

I think most peple would agree he should support his children.

But his morals clearly dont agree. Forcing your morals on him just make him show support.