Funeral payment advice needed

specialboy

billywilly wrote: »

OMG - its one up from a funeral pyre in your own back garden!

I suppose the mourners all sit round the bonfire supping from bottles of brown ale!

To me that is nothing less than an insult to the deceased and to the bereaved family.

The deceased wont know and if the bereaved family members were really bothered then they could chip in a few quid each if they were so concerned, I bet if you ask most people about their own funeral plans that would say they would want the cheapest option.

qwertyman

billywilly wrote: »

OMG - its one up from a funeral pyre in your own back garden!

I suppose the mourners all sit round the bonfire supping from bottles of brown ale!

To me that is nothing less than an insult to the deceased and to the bereaved family.

Do you mean like a traditional Viking funeral pyre? How it's perceived is completely subjective. I'd rather have a funeral pyre party in my back garden than a ridiculously overpriced ceremony arranged by rip-off funeral directors.

billywilly

specialboy wrote: »

The deceased wont know and if the bereaved family members were really bothered then they could chip in a few quid each if they were so concerned, I bet if you ask most people about their own funeral plans that would say they would want the cheapest option.

Well I and all of my friends and family must have a different point of view from yours. I want a funeral which is dignified, represents my life and is in keeping with tradition. It will be a church burial, with music that befits the occasion. Once the deed is done, then I hope and expect everyone to enjoy themselves with a good hearty lunch, a few drinks and convivial conversation.

I don't think money or the lack of it should ever be the deciding factor in how the family, friends and relations want to send the departed off.

margaretclare

billywilly wrote: »

It's a poor do taking your advice that you can't provide for a good send off. One way or another I would have found the money. Dread to think what the friends and relations would have thought if I had buried my late father in a cardboard box!

Burial in a cardboard box is very 'green' i.e. environmentally-friendly.

I'd like it to be as simple as possible, respectful but not wasting huge amounts of money and, certainly, not keeping me in cold storage for weeks while waiting for a crematorium slot. The only thing I ask is: plant snowdrops on my grave!

qwertyman

billywilly wrote: »

Well I and all of my friends and family must have a different point of view from yours. I want a funeral which is dignified, represents my life and is in keeping with tradition. It will be a church burial, with music that befits the occasion. Once the deed is done, then I hope and expect everyone to enjoy themselves with a good hearty lunch, a few drinks and convivial conversation.

I don't think money or the lack of it should ever be the deciding factor in how the family, friends and relations want to send the departed off.

That's all well and good as long as you have adequate life insurance and don't expect someone else to pick up the bill.