Help!!

Sea78

Right, for once i don't actually know what to do about this situation. my friend from uni is getting married on saturday. Originally we were all going and staying at the hotel. However, since that plan OH had major difficulties so I answered to the invitation for just me and the kids (as that was the actual situation at the time). Things have changed. Although Oh can't come to the meal as it's too late to change all the details etc. he would like to come (he is friends with the bride and groom) but wouldn't be able to come until about 7pm. The children would be getting a little tired by then and I was planning on not drinking and driving home about now. All my old uni friends who now live in London are staying. It would be a good night if we were to stay and then OH could come, the kids could stay up a little later and then we can go to bed with them about 9.30 ish (although we could push that a little ). However, it will obviously cost more! The hotel room would be £80-100 and then there is the price of the drinks etc. It would be a great night.

I have the money in savings, so could afford it, but I just don't know if I can justify the expense. We are going on holiday, although we aren't paying for it, but have to have spending money etc (I also have a bit put aside for this too).

What do you think? Is it silly to consider? I just can't decide at all. I don't want to regret my decision either way and it's very frustrating. Pre-lightbulb/money issues I'd have booked ages ago, got a more expensive room, probably gone for friday night too. It takes about 2 hours to drive there.

ARGHHH

Sea xxx

Sea78

Oh, and I know this is quite a frivolous dilemma, not serious like some - sorry.

Snaggles

Sea, I would say that with all you have been through lately, if this would make you really happy, then it's worth the money - but once you make the decision, stick with it and don't feel guilty.

Oh, and HAVE FUN!!

Snaggles

Oi you - there are NO frivolous dilemmas on here - we all agonise over financial decisions, big OR small, and running them past trusted friends can help clarify things.

As a well known member of this forum once said 'I don't go for a sh*t without consulting this site first'.....:rotfl:

irishmist_2

Hi Sea - guess my view is that if you feel you would have a special and memorable night with friends and family that it is an occasion that is really worth spending the money on. if you actually already have the money and it doesn't financially comprimise you, i can't think of anything better to spend it on than such a special day with people very close to you. You can still do it MSE style and book through quidco; chose your drinks and so on......

Good luck with whatever you decide.

poorbutrich

If he or she isn't likely to be getting married again soon, then go for it!! Have fun!

in_debt_again_but_dealing_with_it

Sea if anyone deserves a fun night its you and yours, relax and go for it!
love and hugs
IDA
x

Jennifer_Jane

Yes. I agree with the above - sounds like a great time you'll be having. It'll be worth it for a good memory. Perhaps not too many drinks so that you will remember it!

pania

May well be just the tonic you need hun, after everything you've been through a treat is far from out of the question, go for it, enjoy it, and if kids fall asleep in a corner, hell stay til midnight!!!!
enjoy it, it isn't every weekend so don't worry or feel guilty, just relax and have a b good night. Hugs P xx

postingalwaysposting

sea go for it hun, but as irishmist says try and make the day/weekend an mse/money savvy one. You can still have fun and you have no need to feel guilty if you do everything as cheap/savvy as possible. Have a great time and you saved that cash you have a right to spend it

peluja

Go for it Sea..... you (all!!) deserve it due to recent events!