Should my friend contribute to vet fees?

calicocat

No way would I accept money from a friend who was doing me a favour in the first place and it was an accident that could have happened any time.

Had I said to someone don't ever let my dog off the lead and they had and ended up in trouble due to them doing the opposite.....different matter maybe.

I would value my friendship and think you have a good mate there offering in the first place, it suggests she feels terrible about it when it wasn't her fault , just one of the scrapes dogs get into.

I'm with the others, reassure your friend it wasn't her fault and say she can get her a nice recovery present if she wants to do anything and ask her to come see how she is.

If that was me I would feel terrible if a friends dog had got into trouble in my care, it sounds like your friend does too.



If you are REALLY skint, the most I would do in that position would be to say if you needed money that it would be a Loan only.

Tabbit

It sounds like you don't really want to accept it (though it's hard to turn down free money!) but your friend feels so guilty that she wants to make a gesture and you don't want to upset her by denying her.

Depending on what your dog likes maybe you could suggest that she could make it up to your dog by buying her a new toy or favourite treat, or treating her to some pampering at the groomers when she's healed, if she really want to make a gesture.

Sounds like you've got a true friend there and you're just trying to be a good friend back, i'm sure you'll find a solution that eases her guilt without making you feel like you're punishing her.

pollypenny

I agree with most posters!

It was an accident,,she feels guilty and she's a very good friend to offer, but no. She's not responsible.

Some doggie treats would be good, though.

Li0nhead

Refuse it but if the friend is insistent then meet halfway by saying 'just buy Lassie a treat for when shes better' that way the friend is not paying the bill but satisfies the friends feeling of guilt.

stir_crazy

Li0nhead wrote: »

Refuse it but if the friend is insistent then meet halfway by saying 'just buy Lassie a treat for when shes better' that way the friend is not paying the bill but satisfies the friends feeling of guilt.

I agree here. It is nice of the friend to offer but I would decline it because was an accident and the friend was doing a favour. If the friend really does feel guilty then a small treat for the dog would be more than fine.

Augustus_the_Strong

If you accept her offer of money, you may lose your friend. So thank her very much but say that's fine, it's your dog's fault.

marich

Given the Election season is upon us , I think you should take a leaf out of the politicians' present hymn-book .

Your friend should not have to pay a single penny because it's the dog's responsibility to behave sensibly and avoid barbed wire . The vet's bill should be paid for by cutting the dog's food benefits until the bill has been paid.

You can be assured this choice will restore the dog's dignity , not just physically but also spiritually . After all , every dog should know there's no such thing as a free lunch !

elizabethhull

I'm in agreement with the majority here.
She 'should' offer to help pay, and you 'should' refuse.

If you accept, she may feel very wary of doing any favours, especially dog-walking, for you again.

Be appreciative you have a good conscientious friend who is probably feeling rotten about the whole incident.

Hope Nutmeg is recovered, and that you have done something about the barbed-wire

missTlemons

What a nice friend to offer to pay! - I wouldn't accept it though. Your friend was doing you a favour by walking your dog and, like you said, no-one knew the barbed wire was there. Hope Nutmeg is feeling better

Knit_Witch

I would refuse (but if she insists get her to bring a nice bottle of wine round and have a girly night in!)