Why Can't People Just Grow Up?

Dr._Shoe

Just lately I've been reading a lot of posts on various forums and on social media written by people who are all wingeing about some percieved injustice.

When are they going to grow up?

"Oh woe is me," they say, "they've made me jump through a little hoop, how can I claim?"

Someone makes a mistake and they "suffer". What they mean is that they've had a minor inconvenience or a slight embarrassment.

They don't have a clue what suffering is.

When you have a parent who has been paralysed from the neck down and can't even cry, then you might, just might be able to imagine what suffering is all about.

A few hours out of a life of apparent endless parties is nothing when you spend each day with a loved one who is going to spend years in bed and having to poo into a bag plumbed into their large intestine.

You think that someone may have chipped the paint on your new door? You complain because someone's cut you up in traffic? Some idiot's pushed in front of you getting onto a bus? Why even worry about it? Life's too short!

A wise man once said:

I was complaining about my sore feet until I met a man with no legs.

So true.

JReacher1

Just because a complaint may appear trivial it does not make it worthless.

it's also quite amusing that your complaint is quite trivial.

It annoys me on this site when someone has a genuine complaint and then some muppet posts #firstworldproblems. As if the fact their complaint isn't something that deserves a vent about.

Similarly just because people are dying of cancer, or have no legs doesn't alter the fact that it's annoying when someone chips the paint on your new door or cuts in front of you.

Sharon87

People feel they have the right to say and do what they want. This can end up in rudeness causing others to vent. Some people just can't forget about it and need somewhere to vent their anger and this board for example is an outlet of that.

I get why people come on here to vent, but I also think some of it is so trivial it's not even worth finishing to read their post!

There's also the compensation culture, people complain just to get free stuff. For example 'there's a bug in my bag of salad!', instead of going back to the shop to get a refund/replacement they go to the papers. This usually ends up with them receiving vouchers as well as a refund. People think if they complain loud enough the people or company involved will give them free stuff or compensation to shut up, which never usually works, they still go on about it!

Gavin83

Dr._Shoe wrote: »

Just lately I've been reading a lot of posts on various forums and on social media written by people who are all wingeing about some percieved injustice.

When are they going to grow up?

"Oh woe is me," they say, "they've made me jump through a little hoop, how can I claim?"

Someone makes a mistake and they "suffer". What they mean is that they've had a minor inconvenience or a slight embarrassment.

They don't have a clue what suffering is.

When you have a parent who has been paralysed from the neck down and can't even cry, then you might, just might be able to imagine what suffering is all about.

A few hours out of a life of apparent endless parties is nothing when you spend each day with a loved one who is going to spend years in bed and having to poo into a bag plumbed into their large intestine.

You think that someone may have chipped the paint on your new door? You complain because someone's cut you up in traffic? Some idiot's pushed in front of you getting onto a bus? Why even worry about it? Life's too short!

A wise man once said:



So true.

If someone came along and said your problem was trivial and you need to grow up instead of complaining would that be acceptable?

Everyones issues are trival to someone else, doesn't really give anyone the right to put them down. If it's bothering them it's an issue. It really isn't a competition.

pendragon_arther

Dr._Shoe wrote: »

Just lately I've been reading a lot of posts on various forums and on social media written by people who are all wingeing about some percieved injustice.

When are they going to grow up?

"Oh woe is me," they say, "they've made me jump through a little hoop, how can I claim?"

Someone makes a mistake and they "suffer". What they mean is that they've had a minor inconvenience or a slight embarrassment.

They don't have a clue what suffering is.

So true. The youth of today, tisk, tisk.

Where I was born times were tough as explained below by me and my friends:

FIRST YORKSHIREMAN Aye, very passable, that, very passable bit of risotto.

SECOND YORKSHIREMAN:Nothing like a good glass of Château de Chasselas, eh, Josiah?

THIRD YORKSHIREMAN:You're right there, Obadiah.

FOURTH YORKSHIREMAN:Who'd have thought thirty year ago we'd all be sittin' here drinking Château de Chasselas, eh?

FIRST YORKSHIREMAN:In them days we was glad to have the price of a cup o' tea.

SECOND YORKSHIREMAN A cup o' cold tea.

FOURTH YORKSHIREMAN:Without milk or sugar.

THIRD YORKSHIREMAN:Or tea.

FIRST YORKSHIREMAN:In a cracked cup, an' all.

FOURTH YORKSHIREMAN:Oh, we never had a cup. We used to have to drink out of a rolled up newspaper.

SECOND YORKSHIREMAN The best we could manage was to suck on a piece of damp cloth.

THIRD YORKSHIREMAN:But you know, we were happy in those days, though we were poor.

FIRST YORKSHIREMAN:Because we were poor. My old Dad used to say to me, "Money doesn't buy you happiness, son".

FOURTH YORKSHIREMAN Aye, 'e was right.

FIRST YORKSHIREMAN Aye, 'e was.

FOURTH YORKSHIREMAN:I was happier then and I had nothin'. We used to live in this tiny old house with great big holes in the roof.

SECOND YORKSHIREMAN:House! You were lucky to live in a house! We used to live in one room, all twenty-six of us, no furniture, 'alf the floor was missing, and we were all 'uddled together in one corner for fear of falling.

THIRD YORKSHIREMAN:Eh, you were lucky to have a room! We used to have to live in t' corridor!

FIRST YORKSHIREMAN:Oh, we used to dream of livin' in a corridor! Would ha' been a palace to us. We used to live in an old water tank on a rubbish tip. We got woke up every morning by having a load of rotting fish dumped all over us! House? Huh.

FOURTH YORKSHIREMAN:Well, when I say 'house' it was only a hole in the ground covered by a sheet of tarpaulin, but it was a house to us.

SECOND YORKSHIREMAN:We were evicted from our 'ole in the ground; we 'ad to go and live in a lake.

THIRD YORKSHIREMAN:You were lucky to have a lake! There were a hundred and fifty of us living in t' shoebox in t' middle o' road.

FIRST YORKSHIREMAN:Cardboard box?

THIRD YORKSHIREMAN Aye.

FIRST YORKSHIREMAN:You were lucky. We lived for three months in a paper bag in a septic tank. We used to have to get up at six in the morning, clean the paper bag, eat a crust of stale bread, go to work down t' mill, fourteen hours a day, week-in week-out, for sixpence a week, and when we got home our Dad would thrash us to sleep wi' his belt.

SECOND YORKSHIREMAN:Luxury. We used to have to get out of the lake at six o'clock in the morning, clean the lake, eat a handful of 'ot gravel, work twenty hour day at mill for tuppence a month, come home, and Dad would thrash us to sleep with a broken bottle, if we were lucky!

THIRD YORKSHIREMAN:Well, of course, we had it tough. We used to 'ave to get up out of shoebox at twelve o'clock at night and lick road clean wit' tongue. We had two bits of cold gravel, worked twenty-four hours a day at mill for sixpence every four years, and when we got home our Dad would slice us in two wit' bread knife.

FOURTH YORKSHIREMAN:Right. I had to get up in the morning at ten o'clock at night half an hour before I went to bed, drink a cup of sulphuric acid, work twenty-nine hours a day down mill, and pay mill owner for permission to come to work, and when we got home, our Dad and our mother would kill us and dance about on our graves singing Hallelujah.

FIRST YORKSHIREMAN And you try and tell the young people of today that ..... they won't believe you.

ALL They won't!

dodger1

OP you are simply whinging about whingers.

jaylee3

JReacher1 wrote: »

Just because a complaint may appear trivial it does not make it worthless.

it's also quite amusing that your complaint is quite trivial.

It annoys me on this site when someone has a genuine complaint and then some muppet posts #firstworldproblems. As if the fact their complaint isn't something that deserves a vent about.

Similarly just because people are dying of cancer, or have no legs doesn't alter the fact that it's annoying when someone chips the paint on your new door or cuts in front of you.

Exactly. It really grinds my gears when someone tries to belittle someone for having what THEY perceive as a trivial problem. If something is upsetting someone, then it IS a big deal! No matter what it is.

I am literally sick to death of seeing a thread started on here - the board that is MEANT for venting (the clue is in the name people!) where someone pours their heart out about something that is bugging them, and someone ALWAYS comes along and tries to ridicule them!

Gavin83 wrote: »

If someone came along and said your problem was trivial and you need to grow up instead of complaining would that be acceptable?

Everyones issues are trival to someone else, doesn't really give anyone the right to put them down. If it's bothering them it's an issue. It really isn't a competition.

Exactly!

dodger1 wrote: »

OP you are simply whinging about whingers.

I agree. The original post is an epic fail, and it smacks of irony!

mgdavid

jaylee3 wrote: »

............I am literally sick to death ..........

No you're not.