Social services

pegasus78

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Unfortunately unless she's willing to get help, calling the police or social services probably won't do anything unless there is a record of the police calling and evidence can be seen that the baby is being harmed (they won't do anything about your daughter I'm afraid). If your daughter denies it, and there's no evidence, neither the social services or police can do anything.

The best thing you can do is give her the number of Women's Aid.

Its not uncommon for women to constantly return to an abusive situation.

There is a sticky up above.

geminilady

Hope your daughter gets the help she needs.I don't understand why women stop in abusive relationships but know many do.If it was my daughter I would persuade her to get some counseling which will make her strong enough to end it for good.I would also tell her to think of her child,does she really want it growing up watching "Daddy" beat Mummy?One day he might go too far abusers usually get worse and her child could be left without any parent at all.

elisamoose

A baby does not have to be physically hurt to be at risk.Domestic violence is one of the highest risk factors for children. Children's social care should take this on under section 17. If a women can't keep herself safe from from harm how can she protect a child?

BigAunty

The Womens Aid website has information for friends and families of those experiencing domestic abuse.

marisco_2

A lot of people who are suffering in abusive relationships, are so worn down emotionally and physically by walking on eggshells and trying to stay one step ahead, that it takes time for them to fully comprehend the danger they are in.

Finally facing that the person you love is abusing you and trying to work out how to get away and cope on your own is a terrifying experience. OP I hope that your daughter will be open to contacting the services that other posters have recommended. May I also suggest the Samaritans as being an amazing help to people in her position.

Morglin

pegasus78 wrote: »

Well Ive logged a call with the police and social services now, police were lovely and certaintly knew the address
All I care about is their welfare. Before he met me daughter he started a fire nearly killed two pensioners! went to prison for it and now tells my daughter its worth setting her on fire!

If you speak to a social worker, make sure that they are fully aware of his past history, and his current threats and behaviour. You can phone them, if they don't contact you.

They most certainly can get involved, regardless of whether the baby has been physically harmed or not - the whole situation is putting that child at risk, along with your daughter.

But, ultimately, your daughter really has got to put her baby first, and get out of the situation - it won't improve, and hopefully, social services intervention might make her understand this.

Hopefully, you will also be able to help her get away from him. Women's Aid are very good, with help and advice, and you could also phone them for suggestions.

Good luck.

Lin

fivetide

Might be worth getting a recording app for your phone (if you have a smartphone) in case he calls and makes threats from another number. At least then you'll have evidence.


Hope it works out. Sounds like a terrible situation.