Wedding plans

Seanymph

Talk to people!

You don't need to send 'invites'.

The OH and I had a superquiet wedding - three of our kids and us. And we intended a pub lunch, but it all went on so long they went back to college and we went to catch the ferry in the campervan we'd parked up the road from the Registry office.

Your day, do it how you want, but if you are going low key, stay low key - just talk to your friends, don't send the invites.

vroombroom

Wow thanks for all the advice peeps, it's much appreciated.

Peachyprice - there are 14 altogether, my son included ;-) haha x

Al the people that are coming are close family members (mams, dad, nans, siblings etc) so getting the time off should hopefully be ok for them

We're also getting married at 11:30 so were hoping to have food around 1pm, so those with kids (OH's two sisters) will be able to pick them up from school in plenty of time:D

thanks again everyone, I'll keep you updated

seven-day-weekend

I had a tiny wedding with about a dozen guests (same as you). I had to tell my friend I didn't want her husband there (he was a violent thug). Luckily she understood and didn't bring him.

I would just talk to the invited guests, explain why you don't want children there, but point out that you have catered for those who have to pick children up from school.

Most importantly, enjoy your day!

onlyroz

Do your wedding whichever way you like, but try not to be upset if people can't attend on a work day, and wish to leave early to be with their kids.

LittleMrsThrifty

I'd suggest something like this:

Dear Family

As you know, we are planning to get hitched later this year. We want to have a very small, intimate ceremony and count you amongst our nearest and dearest so hope that you will join us! It's really important to us that this is a private event so we appreciate you all keeping it to yourselves until afterwards (no Facebook!).

The date we have reserved is XXX. The ceremony will be at 11am and will be followed by lunch at 1pm (location TBC).

Other than LittleXYZ it will be adults only. We have planned the timings so that we will be finished in time for those of you who need to collect children from school. We'll be paying for the meal. No presents please - we just want you to join in our special day.

Lots of love
Mr and Mrs XYZ to be

vroombroom

Perfect thank you:money:

reason for no social media is basically my dad's side of the family. I don't speak to him/have no intentions but I'm in contact with my nan and his brothers. If he found out I can pretty much guarantee he would turn up. N0b.