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Help stopping alcoholic family member using credit cards

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  • Mojisola
    Mojisola Posts: 35,572 Forumite
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    Yes, this is exactly how it SHOULD be, but don't forget with live in this pathetic pansy nation nanny state.

    Someones problems are always someone elses fault.

    Or family members who love this person are trying to help and to stop him from messing up his life even further.

    They won't succeed unless the relative decides he wants to change but it's normal to want to help a loved one.

    There's support for the family here - http://www.al-anonuk.org.uk/
  • Thank-you for all your help and advice re alcoholism, however I was really trying to find out if you cancel your cards and set up a payment plan if you then get blacklisted?
  • CLAPTON
    CLAPTON Posts: 41,865 Forumite
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    Thank-you for all your help and advice re alcoholism, however I was really trying to find out if you cancel your cards and set up a payment plan if you then get blacklisted?

    well, not paying your debts results in being defaulted : this basically trashes your credit record for 6 years

    if you default on a mortgage, your home may be repossessed
  • CLAPTON wrote: »
    well, not paying your debts results in being defaulted : this basically trashes your credit record for 6 years

    if you default on a mortgage, your home may be repossessed

    A payment plan would be set up with the credit card companies, so no payments would be missed. Mortgage is being paid so not an issue. Just didn't want to get blacklisted for cancelling cards.
  • grumbler
    grumbler Posts: 58,629 Forumite
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    'Blacklisting' is a myth.
    A payment plan gets reported to CRAs and adversely affects credit history even if you follow it and don't miss any payments.
  • grumbler wrote: »
    'Blacklisting' is a myth.
    A payment plan gets reported to CRAs and adversely affects credit history even if you follow it and don't miss any payments.

    Thank-you that's what I wanted to know :)
  • CLAPTON
    CLAPTON Posts: 41,865 Forumite
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    A payment plan would be set up with the credit card companies, so no payments would be missed. Mortgage is being paid so not an issue. Just didn't want to get blacklisted for cancelling cards.

    don't be ridiculous

    a payment plan is a default : unless the full contractual payment is being made then there is a missed payment every single month
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