complexed situation

gwynlas

Whilst things seem settled at the moment your husband and his sister need to discuss next steps with their parents, ie. What happens if he takes drugs again? He needs referral to local CMHT who can provide support with keeping him clean,.
Grandparents should also be assessed to see if Granddad is suffering dementia so they can get the assistance they need. Also grandmother needs to be supported in not giving/lending him money as it is not helping him. Perhaps they need to move into sheltered accommodation as they age then could not have grandson living with them.
At the end of the day your stepson needs to take responsibility for himself, it sounds like he can keep himself drug free when it suits. Hopefully there isn't a serious underlying mental health issue but this does not appear to be the case.

nuttywoman

I feel for you I really do cos our son is on drugs and we found the only thing we could do was step back from it all mainly to save our sanity but also cos we were doing him no favours . We never give him money but will give him food and buy him clothes for his birthday, Christmas etc .
Is there not a group for families you can attend ?
There wasn't around our way until me, hubby and another couple started one .
Best thing we did because it helped us to understand we weren't alone plus talking to people gave us an insight in their struggles .
My son is now living in supported accomodation and now going days without taking anything so I`m not hopeful but its good .
Pm me if you need any info , advice etc xx
val

Errata

i really don't feel the doctors have helped him much tbh

Are you confident he told the doctor everything about his drink and drug taking? Or that he's told you the truth about the consultation?

tibbers

I am so angry, dissapointed and feel like we are wasting our time.
Organised for stepson to go to counselling for drug and alcholol misuse, (been organised for over a week), hubby rang his mother tuesday, wednesday and again thursday just to make sure it was still on. It came to light on Thursday that nanny hadn't even told ss where he was going!! So, hubby asked his son if he wanted to go to the counselling Friday pm and he said yes.. whoo hoo i thought, finally he is seeing that he needs help....
Nanny has just rang, ss is not going today as he is still in bed... why is he still in bed??? because his friend went round last night and they had a couple of cans, oh and because nanny bought him a bottle of bloody Vodka too!!!! been up all night drinking that and watching films apparently....

Oh and apparently, nanny is due to go on holiday soon too and doesn't want him staying there! she is insisting he comes here in a round about sort of way... told her we have no bedroom now, as its been gutted!!


Why do we even bother.......................But somehow, this will still all come back on us and family fall out is in process....

misspickle_2

Don't let him stay whatever you do. My god he is 25.
Sounds harsh but maybe he needs to feel what a horrible place the gutter is before he can do what's needed to never end up back there.
He will have two choices. Sink or swim.
Time to take the float away maybe?

Sorry that you have to go through it op. Your a better person than me that's for sure. I would have turned my back long ago