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Support options for dd
Prudent
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I am wondering if anyone can give me some advice about supporting my adult daughter.
I have a young adult daughter who has a mental illness. DD lives alone in a rented flat in the same town as me. She won't leave the flat without me and over the years has become more isolated from her friends as their lives have moved on to careers/ partners/ their own children etc.
I work full time in a very demanding job and that alone is a huge struggle for me as I have two long term disabilities. .
DD tried working after college and for three years put in a real effort to sustain work. However after several periods in hospital it became clear she could not manage. She has recently (after a long wait!) been awarded the higher care element of PIP and been placed in the support group for ESA. She has had significant problems with incompetency from our local council re LHA and council tax help. Eventually we had to involve our MP. She is finding it all too much to deal with. CAB have been helpful, but I have no flexibility in my working hours and cannot take her to appointments. I feel she is rarely getting out as I am too exhausted and ill to take her.
I am wondering what support may be available for dd as what I am able to give is simply not enough. She sees her GP about once a week or sometimes a fortnight depending on her health and about once every six weeks she sees a community psychiatrist. Things feel at breaking point for us both just now and I need to find a better way forward. The figure in my signature below is the point at which I could reduce my work hours a bit, but that is probably not until next year.
I have a young adult daughter who has a mental illness. DD lives alone in a rented flat in the same town as me. She won't leave the flat without me and over the years has become more isolated from her friends as their lives have moved on to careers/ partners/ their own children etc.
I work full time in a very demanding job and that alone is a huge struggle for me as I have two long term disabilities. .
DD tried working after college and for three years put in a real effort to sustain work. However after several periods in hospital it became clear she could not manage. She has recently (after a long wait!) been awarded the higher care element of PIP and been placed in the support group for ESA. She has had significant problems with incompetency from our local council re LHA and council tax help. Eventually we had to involve our MP. She is finding it all too much to deal with. CAB have been helpful, but I have no flexibility in my working hours and cannot take her to appointments. I feel she is rarely getting out as I am too exhausted and ill to take her.
I am wondering what support may be available for dd as what I am able to give is simply not enough. She sees her GP about once a week or sometimes a fortnight depending on her health and about once every six weeks she sees a community psychiatrist. Things feel at breaking point for us both just now and I need to find a better way forward. The figure in my signature below is the point at which I could reduce my work hours a bit, but that is probably not until next year.
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Speak to Social Services to get an assessment of her needs and also a carers assessment for you xSpelling courtesy of the whims of auto correct...
Pet Peeves.... queues, vain people and hypocrites ..not necessarily in that order.0
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