Husband will be so distressed due to my lies

lynzpower

Im inclined to agree.

What do you think your hubby will be more bothered by, the fact you gave the money, or the fact that you havent told the truth? the more you withhold the truth, the harder it will be when he does eventually find out.

Madnessa

Hi there

I think the longer you keep this from OH the worse his reaction will be. Act now and I think he will be there for you. Is this just your son or his son too?

Does he have any kids himself?

I think he will understand that you were just trying to help your kid and it went a bit wrong. In all honesty it's not even your debt really is it? Your just trying to help your kid.

It sounds like the relationship between your son and OH is a little strained though.

Also I think you should make your son take responsibility for this. As he is working he should be able to pay back a part of the debt every month to help you out. Maybe if you point out that if this is his attitude to money then the next time he is in need of help there won't be anyone who trusts him enough to lend him any!

Madnessa

BrandNewDay

What you've done is what many - most - parents would have done. It looks like you've learned your lesson.

Tell your husband. He took you "for better or for worse." A spouse is meant to help us shoulder our burdens in life. Sure, he'll be upset. But, if he's a good husband, he'll calm down and be supportive.

When I saw the title of this thread, I thought I was going to read a long story about secret credit cards or something. What you've done isn't that bad at all.