Faithful Friend & Companion of 18 yrs gone

thorsoak

I'm so sorry to read your post, Cattie - but how priviledged you were to be loved by your puss for so long! Remember him with love - those memories will comfort you in time to come - and although no cat will ever take his place, you will find another cat who will fill the space that he has left in your heart xxx

Rev

So sorry for your loss. My last dog was 18 when we lost her. She had been my best friend since I was 14.

I don't think anyone but you will know when the time is right to get another pet.


For a long time I felt that if I got another dog I would be being unfaithful to my dog. After a time that feeling was replaced with a longing for a dog. I knew that that the time was right to get another furbaby. I also remember feeling that I wanted a new dog right away because there was a massive hole in my heart. So there is a part of you that wants to go out right away and fill that hole because you want your baby back. But I'm glad I waited.


Do whatever feels right.

Corelli

I'm so sorry that poor Scampi has gone and you are feeling such loss. When the first cat I had died my grief was intense, I dreamed of him and cried a lot, and I found that writing about him helped a lot. We didn't want another cat straight away as like so many others, it felt like we would have been replacing poor Becky Puss. which felt totally wrong. But a little homeless cat was found by a friend, it was being kept in a youth club and having a rather hard time. We said we weren't ready for another cat, but as she said, he had nowhere to go so we had him. Then shortly after other friends had a litter of kittens that the mother was unable to take care of so we had two of them.

They were a delight and of course were totally different to our Becky Puss who we still missed but it felt good helping these particular babies who loved each other intensely. So then from three we moved on to many many more and we have lost many in the (approx) 40 years now we have been keeping cats. It still is very sad to lose one, and I swore that with the last lot I would not love them as I didn't want to be hurt anymore. But I've softened .... and accept that these ones who live with us now will have shorter lives than us humans as have all the others.

Hugs, Cattie X

Deep_In_Debt

So sorry for your loss.

I had 2 rescue cats years ago, 1 was pts as she had cancer and her sister died a few months later of grief I think. She just seemed to lose her will to live after her sister went.

A year later, I adopted 2 more kittens who are now 13. I felt guilty at the time but they were never replacements, just different cats needing a better life and lots of love.

My mum has a 19 year old rescue cat who is not well and the end is very near now. We are both devastated as Lucy has been with mum since dad died and has been mum's faithful companion for the last 18 years.

Hoipolloi

It's heart wrenching, I am so sorry for your loss.

dandelionclock30

I'm sorry to hear you lost your cat OP, I think you should get another straight away. When one of mine went missing last year it really upset me. In ten years she only went out twice at night and the 2nd time she was never seen again. We think a fox got her.
Anyway I got another from a rescue after a month, not to replace her as you cant but to offer another a loving home.He is the sweetest most loving cat ever and I cant believe someone got rid of him. What I'm saying is that you clearly can offer a good home and there are so many desperate for a home of their own. So go for it I say and get a male as I think they are more affectionate.

m1kjm

I'm sorry for your loss, there's no pain like it. I think there's something to be said for getting a new pet straightaway because the house feels so empty without them. A new pet would also help to fill that gaping void, give you some companionship and give you something to focus on. I can also see why people like to have more than one pet so that they're never without when they lose one.

Apoorwoman

Dear Cattie

I have been thinking about you all day. I don't know your circumstances but, would you consider fostering cats for a local rescue? Not only would it give you companionship while each one was with you, but you would also meet many like minded people. And, perhaps in time, the right kittie would arrive. May be worth considering.

Hope you are feeling a little better now. xx

mum2one

I just wanted to say sorry about the loss of scampi, there is never a 100% right time, but in your heart something will trigger and then your know,

We had a cat when I was a child, I lost him when I was 18, he was 12 years old, ginger, although we did want a cat, the situation was never right as the dog we had wouldn't take to another cat.

all my life I have been brought up with dogs, they take such a big part of your heart, each dog has had different personalities, yet each one has been loved for themselves, they've been with us through good times, My last dog was 8 when I had my daughter, and to be honest we wondered how he would take to her, I didn't need to worry, they became inseperable, the dog we have now, he's been our rock, as my dad is battling cancer, he's my little angel.

maybe look at a cat rescue centre, my friend she lost her husband last yr in October, and she now has a kitten from the rspca, the kitten is a rock for her.

God bless xxxx

Flick216

Oh you poor thing! I am so sorry for your loss.

Not everyone realises just how heartbreaking losing a pet is.

I wish I could give you a huge hug right now and have a good cry with you