A moment shared

worried_jim

Just received a Christmas card in the post from my Gran. She died on Wednesday.

I now have no Grandparents left. I am devastated for my poor Mum and her brother and sister. I know my uncle has taken it badly although it was a longtime coming as her health as deteriorated since my Gran-dad died a few years ago.

I didn't get to visit in hospital as I am the other side of the country but I did manage to facetime last week. She was 94 but I cant help but think about my Mum not having her Mum, or Dad.

I am just writing Christmas cards now to them, its tough. I have no one to speak to so I am just unloading randomly to the internet. Going to go and finish the cards now. Thanks for reading, it's helped.

I haven't opened her card yet (I know it wasn't written by her, they haven't been for a few years) after Christmas I will put it with all the other ones of hers that I have saved fearing that it would be the last.

purpleshoes_2

worried_jim wrote: »

Just received a Christmas card in the post from my Gran. She died on Wednesday.

I now have no Grandparents left. I am devastated for my poor Mum and her brother and sister. I know my uncle has taken it badly although it was a longtime coming as her health as deteriorated since my Gran-dad died a few years ago.

I didn't get to visit in hospital as I am the other side of the country but I did manage to facetime last week. She was 94 but I cant help but think about my Mum not having her Mum, or Dad.

I am just writing Christmas cards now to them, its tough. I have no one to speak to so I am just unloading randomly to the internet. Going to go and finish the cards now. Thanks for reading, it's helped.

I haven't opened her card yet (I know it wasn't written by her, they haven't been for a few years) after Christmas I will put it with all the other ones of hers that I have saved fearing that it would be the last.

My gran died 4 years ago this Christmas, the anniversary was 2 days ago, my mum took it badly, we all did. She was my only gran, my grandpa died when I was 9.

I miss her and I think of her often and I know how tough the first Christmas was for us, all I can say is we won't ever forget her and the first year was awful, but we have a low key christmas, my mum and I and we remember her in our own way.

Sorry for your loss.

swingaloo

So sorry. Its always hard no matter what time of year but I think its always worse when its Christmas.
I lost my uncle last March and I just had a card from my aunt, when I spoke to her she said it was heart breaking writing her cards this year with just her name on.


I still have the last card my nan and granddad sent me and it was over 25 years ago that they died.


When my dad died 12 months after my mum I remember being with my 2 sisters (the youngest of us was 45 at the time) at the funeral and she turned to me and said 'Oh my God, we are orphans'. At the time she was seriously upset by the thought, but now we look back and smile at that remark.


I think it hits home when a parent dies that you suddenly become the eldest branch of the family. While your parent are alive you can still revert to being 'the child'.


It wont be an easy Christmas for you all but at least it sounds like your gran had a long life with a close family and that's something to be grateful for.

Buzzybee90

Firstly I'm sorry, I lost my grandmother at Christmas too, actually at Christmas. It was awful but don't let it become attached to the holiday.

Treasure your card, religious/spiritual people may even call it a sign. But that depends what you believe in.

Take care, look after your Mum.

McKneff

Look on it another way, your mum and her siblings have been so lucky to have had a mum for so long, All those precious years. A lot more that most people.


You will all miss her for a long time, but the old platitude, of time heals, still applies.

marisco_2

I am very sorry to hear of the loss of your nan. What a lucky lady she was to have such a long life, and a family who loved her dearly. I hope that her card will bring you some comfort at this very difficult time.

Mrs_Soup

I lost my last grandparent in September. My 7 year old son said "she was 90 you know" which kind of helped but also means I have got to nearly 50 with a grandparent so I think we all feel a bit lost. Must be specially hard to get a card from her though so my sympathies.

Slinky

I'm sorry for your loss.

A couple of years ago when routing through a box of Christmas cards to send, I discovered at the bottom, a couple of cards my Dad had sent me I must have stored away, as you have done. They have gone on my mantelpiece today.

Thinking of you.

NobodysChild

worried_jim wrote: »

Just received a Christmas card in the post from my Gran. She died on Wednesday.

I now have no Grandparents left. I am devastated for my poor Mum and her brother and sister. I know my uncle has taken it badly although it was a longtime coming as her health as deteriorated since my Gran-dad died a few years ago.

I didn't get to visit in hospital as I am the other side of the country but I did manage to facetime last week. She was 94 but I cant help but think about my Mum not having her Mum, or Dad.

I am just writing Christmas cards now to them, its tough. I have no one to speak to so I am just unloading randomly to the internet. Going to go and finish the cards now. Thanks for reading, it's helped.

I haven't opened her card yet (I know it wasn't written by her, they haven't been for a few years) after Christmas I will put it with all the other ones of hers that I have saved fearing that it would be the last.

Awww, bless you. And your family.

Heaven has a new angel now. :A

I am really sorry for your loss. How sad.

Guess that card will be very special to you now.

NobodysChild

marisco wrote: »

I am very sorry to hear of the loss of your nan. What a lucky lady she was to have such a long life, and a family who loved her dearly. I hope that her card will bring you some comfort at this very difficult time.

McKneff wrote: »

Look on it another way, your mum and her siblings have been so lucky to have had a mum for so long, All those precious years. A lot more that most people.

You will all miss her for a long time, but the old platitude, of time heals, still applies.

What nice posts.

In fact, all of the posts here are most thoughtful and kind.

too_much_debt

I am sorry for your loss, it is so hard when someone you love dies no matter how old they are.


My last living Grandparent (my Nan) died in September 2010, she was 93. As she suffered towards the end with Dementia and was quite ill, it was a relief in the end that she didn't have to suffer any longer - that is the only thing that got me through it. I hope that when my parents time comes it is quick and painless as the other option of them suffering is too much to bear to think about.


My other Grandparents died aged 73 and 84. I do miss them a lot but I have the wonderful memories and am thankful that I had them for as long as I did. I am glad my children got to know one of their Great Grandparents too as I had a Great Nan who died when I was 19 and I love that I knew her.


Treasure every memory and know that even though she has gone she will always be in your heart and watching over you.


TMD