Elite go to Lapland In Time for christmas Eve

fairclaire

EMMAP wrote: »

Ah thanks you lot. Excellent advice as always. I don't like anyone to think badly of me if I can help it so that's probably why I'm upset tbh.

We don't even have each other's phone numbers, that's how casual our friendship is! We've not seen each other since May and that was an accidental meeting. We really are more work friends than anything else. It's just taken me aback slightly. I do use social media a lot but have always thought I had friends who were a bit above that blocking thing. I did my best to explain in the two minutes she gave me over the internet so that's that.

I will enjoy my luxury hotel experience tomorrow and try not to dwell on it. This is why I don't like going out on NY!

I know a lot of people will disagree but I don't believe there is such a thing as 'work friends'....only colleagues. Sounds harsh but for me it's always been true. It's easy to make 'friends', spend time, have nights out etc... with people you work with. You are spending a lot of hours a day with them. But in reality they are rarely people who you'd have spent time with otherwise. And as someone who has moved around a lot job-wise.....you ultimately lose touch. If it was real friendship, you wouldn't.
There is the odd exception but for the most part if you aren't spending 8 hours a day with someone and being forced to communicate, there's no real bond there. Might explain why I only have a few 'real' friends :rotfl::rotfl:

streetlights

davemorton wrote: »

Can you tell I am just catching up?



Oooo, now that is good value for money, I usually have to pay a lot more for such a service

You need to go on the go on the naughty step that did make me laugh.

fairclaire

lookinforabargain wrote: »

:think:

I wonder if now is a good time to tell my OH I quite fancy going out tomorrow night now?! I wouldn't be amused if he turned round and said he was going out and leaving me with at home with DD on NYE so I don't really think I can Ah the joys of being in a relationship :rotfl:

Not manipulative enough you need to engineer a conversation where he suggests you could go out don't tell any lies.....just embellish some truths :rotfl::rotfl: He can't argue with his own idea oh I used to be so good at this :rotfl:

davemorton

fairclaire wrote: »

I know a lot of people will disagree but I don't believe there is such a thing as 'work friends'....only colleagues. Sounds harsh but for me it's always been true. It's easy to make 'friends', spend time, have nights out etc... with people you work with. You are spending a lot of hours a day with them. But in reality they are rarely people who you'd have spent time with otherwise. And as someone who has moved around a lot job-wise.....you ultimately lose touch. If it was real friendship, you wouldn't.
There is the odd exception but for the most part if you aren't spending 8 hours a day with someone and being forced to communicate, there's no real bond there. Might explain why I only have a few 'real' friends :rotfl::rotfl:

I actively avoid socialising with people from work, just not a good idea.

streetlights wrote: »

You need to go on the go on the naughty step that did make me laugh.

Ohh, is that where you get the cheap bacon wraps from? No wonder Nerfy always sounds so happy

EMMAP

fairclaire wrote: »

I know a lot of people will disagree but I don't believe there is such a thing as 'work friends'....only colleagues. Sounds harsh but for me it's always been true. It's easy to make 'friends', spend time, have nights out etc... with people you work with. You are spending a lot of hours a day with them. But in reality they are rarely people who you'd have spent time with otherwise. And as someone who has moved around a lot job-wise.....you ultimately lose touch. If it was real friendship, you wouldn't.
There is the odd exception but for the most part if you aren't spending 8 hours a day with someone and being forced to communicate, there's no real bond there. Might explain why I only have a few 'real' friends :rotfl::rotfl:

No you're quite right. I've only kept two work friends as real friends (one of them told me she was up the duff earlier )

It would be better to say a friendly colleague. So all in all I don't think I'm losing much by having DM block me

Ya cheeky git. Pouring my heart out I was!

davemorton

fairclaire wrote: »

Not manipulative enough you need to engineer a conversation where he suggests you could go out don't tell any lies.....just embellish some truths :rotfl::rotfl: He can't argue with his own idea oh I used to be so good at this :rotfl:

Why does this not suprise me?? :cool:

fairclaire

davemorton wrote: »

Pah!! Just had a stupidwork colleague of mine drop me in it at the last minute!
Basicly I invited her to a NYE event months ago, and she was dead up for it. I was not bothered if she came really, as she goes on about about how much she has saved on her shopping, but she seemed as if she would be alone on NYE, and you now me, all heart.
Anyway, I met her whilst doing my 'weekend job' (Davina)
Tonight she messages me that she could not come! I told her that was okay, and she kept going on about it. We are both in our 30's (her alot more in to it than me ' Anyway, I have blocked her, as my inbox was just filling up too much.
So, back to tonight

I'm just off to change my knickers. I peed them laughing :rotfl::rotfl:

cheer1eader

EMMAP wrote: »

I've just had someone block me on Twitter and defriend me on FB. Feeling a bit upset about it. Basically she's an old work colleague who invited me to what I thought was a NYE event she was going to with a few friends. She asked if I'd like to 'join' in early December. I said I'd maybe drop by but not until after 10ish. I sent her a message today to say I'd changed my mind and got three messages from her. She said she had already bought a ticket to the event (it was a tenner) but luckily she had been invited elsewhere so she wouldn't be a Billy no mates.

I started to apologise and explain that I thought it was a loose arrangement. Sent a message or two. I was just about to send another and couldn't as she's blocked me across all social media. I'm staggered. We're both in our 30s and have been friendly for a few years. Don't really know how to react to this

i had a friend who i had known for years but hadn't seen her for about a year until sept when my ds3 started at his new school. i said hello a few times but only got a quick hello back & no eye contact &had conversations stopped when i reached her & her clique at the school gates i don't really go on FB so didn't realise at 1st she'd blocked me but i did see her one day when i was out shopping about 2 months ago & i asked her if i had done anything to upset her & she said yes i had as she walked away :eek: i haven't seen anyone she knows or spoken about her to anyone so this confused me so i asked what have i done? she replied i can't talk to you about it???? i left the shop in tears & was upset for over a week before hubby, friends & family made me realise she's not worth it i still find it really awkward at the school every day but at least i'm not letting her upset me anymore. it's her issue not mine & she's the one who's lost out on my friendship not the other way round

davemorton

EMMAP wrote: »

one of them told me he was up the duff earlier )

Wooohooo, Emmap's going to be a mammy, congratulations

davemorton

fairclaire wrote: »

I'm just off to change my knickers. I peed them

Oh, you are a kinky little minx, arnt you