Feel jealous and it's silly!

tryingtocutback

At work we all have end of year meetings which come with a "score" out of 5 (1 is low and 5 is high).

I have worked there for some years but I am in a new role this year so expecting (and my boss has suggested) that I am likely to get a 3 or 4 which is fantastic and I am really pleased with it.

However, a close friend of mine works at the same place and her boss shared with me that she is likely to get either a 2 or even a 1 since they feel she is "outstanding". Don't get me wrong she is good but honestly she isn't outstanding - she works late because it suits her but this means she doesn't rush to get things done and she has openly admitted to me that she often goes days without even checking her emails.

I feel really jealous though which I know is silly because she is my friend! How can I feel less bitter about this?

(sorry if this makes me sound like I'm really spoilt but I honestly do work really hard too!)

Lets_say

Sorry confused here. If she is 'outstanding' she must be a 5 ?

McKneff

Have you got your numbers the wrong way round....???

marisco_2

tryingtocutback wrote: »

At work we all have end of year meetings which come with a "score" out of 5 (1 is low and 5 is high).

I have worked there for some years but I am in a new role this year so expecting (and my boss has suggested) that I am likely to get a 3 or 4 which is fantastic and I am really pleased with it.

However, a close friend of mine works at the same place and her boss shared with me that she is likely to get either a 2 or even a 1 since they feel she is "outstanding".

If one is low then your colleague is viewed as being in outstanding need of having to pull her finger out and improve in her role. Why are you jealous of someone in that position?

geri1965_2

Her boss should not be sharing this information with you.

cavework

OMG please tell me what you do for a living?
Are you a banker?
Sorry.. 1 is rubbish and 5 is tops?
So....
no , I give up

tea_lover

How unprofessional is her boss??

krlyr

tea_lover wrote: »

How unprofessional is her boss??

Exactly. If she can't be professional by keeping these scores to herself, I wouldn't put too much value on her professional behaviour in deciding the scores, either.

jaylee3

tryingtocutback wrote: »

At work we all have end of year meetings which come with a "score" out of 5 (1 is low and 5 is high).

I have worked there for some years but I am in a new role this year so expecting (and my boss has suggested) that I am likely to get a 3 or 4 which is fantastic and I am really pleased with it.

However, a close friend of mine works at the same place and her boss shared with me that she is likely to get either a 2 or even a 1 since they feel she is "outstanding". Don't get me wrong she is good but honestly she isn't outstanding - she works late because it suits her but this means she doesn't rush to get things done and she has openly admitted to me that she often goes days without even checking her emails.

I feel really jealous though which I know is silly because she is my friend! How can I feel less bitter about this?

(sorry if this makes me sound like I'm really spoilt but I honestly do work really hard too!)

I am confused too. Going by what you said, a 1 or 2 would be somewhere between rubbish and 'below average.'

Also, you class a 3 out of 5 as 'fantastic?' It sounds average to me. I would expect someone who is performing well to get a 4 for sure.

Also, as someone said above ^^^ why is this colleague's appraisal/score etc being discussed with you?

JReacher1

Good management tactic.

Two excellent employees. Tell one the other employee is going to get a higher score and then watch them compete for the next year to try and better each other.

HPoirot

Welcome to the world of the workplace where nothing is as it seems.