Teenager daughter conned by schoolmate

bluelass

if there is no emails or recorded conversations it will be hard to prove sorry. I know how you feel hun, a man in a local pub convinced everyone he was dying from bowel cancer he got almost 6 grand off the locals and pub staff through fund raising. He did have it but was successfully treated and told everyone his oncologist made a mistake (this was after he came back from a cruise looking in very rude health dancing around the pool table waving a cue on his arrival back). He got a caution no one got a penny back.

atrixblue.-MFR-.

fivetide wrote: »

That's very smart of you. Without a reply from the OP and especially with a number of corroborating witnesses you can already tell there is not enough evidence and the OP should just roll over and accept it...


I don't think jumping to negative conclusions helps at all. OP should definitely pursue it even if it is to either call the parents' bluff or as suggested, report it to the new school and warn them of this particular con.


If it was your kids. Would you just forget about it?

In reality, the police will most likely talk to the parents, if the parents don't co-operate or flatly deny any wrong doing by their daughter then the police will state "its a civil matter" nothing we can do here.


this is because they will know that CPS wont take the case forward, the police will be reluctant to give a 14 yr old a criminal record that could destroy any further education, and employment over £60.00 plus the evidence is circumstantial evidence at best even if theres a conversation on facebook and emails. unless the child states in a full confession that she intentionally brainstormed this concert up to take their money it would be hard to prove fraud.


this could be taken up in civil court as apposed to criminal, where the balance of probabilities are more likely to get you a win, rather than burden of proof but for £60 would you spend you over £100 to get it back? no


so best thing is they have moved so no contact is needed everyday, no need to speak to them, chalk it up as experience.


and next make sure you write it down with the parents, have a signed sheet and any money that is handed over is witnessed and signed receipt.

clarryd

OP make sure if you send them another letter that you take a copy of it, and I hope you took a copy of the original letter you sent her parents. This would be classed as a paper trail. You always need to prove that what you said you did actually happened. If you have a bank withdrawal for the £60 then that is another paper trail.

Sometimes it only take an official letter headed letter to make the other person take note that you are not going away. Get the other conned families to also send them a letter to show this is happening on various other occasions.

The another choice is to forget it and put it down to a valued lesson learnt.

adouglasmhor

Do you have legal cover as part of insurance or union membership? Pone the helpline of that if you do. A letter from a law firm often gets action when personal letters etc get ignored.

lostinrates

My opinion would be to speak to the police and encourage the parents of the schoolmates this has happened to before to do so as well, perhaps do it together, explaining that it came to light it was a repeated situation when you were asking around.

Not least because the young person would benefit from some intervention.

lucystardust87

Agree that this girl needs some intervention or she'll grow up to do much worse.

jozxyqk

A housemate once moved out owing me something like £50. He changed his number and refused to give his next address.

I was fuming for quite some time until a colleague said something along the lines of "it's cost you £50 to get a lying thief out of your life. Consider it an investment". Wise words.

As others have said, I'd chalk it up to experience.

LandyAndy

Master_Blaster wrote: »

Nice post Petrocelli

I am getting the feeling you have not studied law but have decided to use a few big words to give your post a little credibility.

Do you know it will cost £100 in the small claims court? The OP has made no mention of their own financial position and of course if they won they would get costs back. But probably not worth the hassle for £60.

There is no such thing as the small claims court.


It would cost £25 using money claim online to issue county court proceedings.


I do think such proceedings would be a waste of money though, just not as much as you suggest.

atrixblue.-MFR-.

LandyAndy wrote: »

There is no such thing as the small claims court.


It would cost £25 using money claim online to issue county court proceedings.


I do think such proceedings would be a waste of money though, just not as much as you suggest.

"It would cost £25 using money claim online to issue county court proceedings".

not to mention the parents wages, fuel money, parking ticket money and possibly many adjournments to rinse and repeat the waste of wages fuel and tickets for parking!.