Advice needed after separation.

Stafflover

Hi everyone,I'm new to this site and need some advice please.I've just separated from my partner of 9 years,we lived together for 7years.When we decided to live together I was in council property and he was buying his so I gave my house up and moved into his house.I took some of my furniture etc with me but gave a lot away.I'm having to stay at my mother's at the moment while I try and find somewhere but am finding it difficult as I need a deposit,a months rent and to furnish it with no money to do this.I asked my ex partner for some money because I have walked away with nothing but he flatly refused.He did pay all the bills because he's on a lot more money than me and that's what we agreed and I paid for food and if things got broken like a washer,kettle etc.So would like some advice to know am I entitled to any money from him?

mgdavid

Are you married?
Do you have children?

Caz3121

Are you in Scotland or England (possibly different laws)
I know someone in Scotland that cohabitted for a few years and got half the increase in the property from the time they moved in but she had contributed to the bills
The issue will be that many properties were worth the same or more 7 years ago so there may not have been an increase in value to share

You should be able to take the washer, kettle etc the items you purchased

Stafflover

No not married and he has 2 sons aged 13 and 22.I'm in England and don't know if I have any rights or what.It's not like I want half of everything,I just want to be able to move from my mother's without having to get a loan.I even stopped working nights and had to take a lower paid job to suit him.

Guest101

Stafflover wrote: »

No not married and he has 2 sons aged 13 and 22.I'm in England and don't know if I have any rights or what.It's not like I want half of everything,I just want to be able to move from my mother's without having to get a loan.I even stopped working nights and had to take a lower paid job to suit him.

No your not entitled to anything.

Get saving.

It sounds like he provided a home for you for 9 years and all u had to do was get food and some household items.

So really the question should be, why did u not save anything in those 9 years???

[Deleted User]

I am afraid that morally you may feel he owes you something, legally he doesn't. It is very hard.., but lessons usually are unpleasant, thats why we learn from them.

Use this as an opportunity for a fresh start. If the relationship caused you to give up so much.., you are well out of it. Assuming you don't have any children yourself, it shouldn't be impossible to take a deep breath and use the past to drive you on to better things.

Errata

For seven years he put a roof over your head and paid all the bills whilst your only bill was coughing up c£20 a week on food for him.
You've been a kept woman, to all intents and purposes, and now you want more money?
The only thing you're entitled to is to stand on your own two feet and take responsibility for your life.

Stafflover

Wow how bitter do you 2 sound Guest101 and Errata.I'm guessing you've both been through a messy break up.None of you know the full facts but you just assume I was a kept woman and only spent £20 a week on food and if that was the case I wouldn't need any money.I actually kept the house going when he had no work so thanks for your 'ADVICE' I shall start saving right away and trust me I can stand on my own 2 feet.Hope you can both get over your bitterness.

Guest101

Stafflover wrote: »

Wow how bitter do you 2 sound Guest101 and Errata.I'm guessing you've both been through a messy break up.None of you know the full facts but you just assume I was a kept woman and only spent £20 a week on food and if that was the case I wouldn't need any money.I actually kept the house going when he had no work so thanks for your 'ADVICE' I shall start saving right away and trust me I can stand on my own 2 feet.Hope you can both get over your bitterness.

1: my reply was based on what YOU said, ie his house and he paid the bills and u paid for food & some repairs. U didn't mention supporting him financially once - so not giving full story ( tho I doubt ur legally entitled to anything)

2: u presume I've been thru a messy break up, which is incorrect. I just have a good legal understanding and a good moral compass, u lack one of those for sure, possibly both.

Errata

'm guessing you've both been through a messy break up.

You're not guessing, you're fantasising.

FBaby

To be honest, it is very hard to advise on the information you have provided. There was a case recently when a women left her council house to move in her partner's house, then she sued him and got some cash when they separated on the basis that he had promised her a home for life. She sued him for half the house, didn't get that but got a couple of thousand to 'put her back where she was before she moved'.

So in theory, maybe you could do the same, but of course, that would cost money in the first place (although she got him to pay her court costs).

The problem is that we don't know your situation. What did you agree when you move to his house. You said you gave up your night job (assuming better paid than what you had afterwards) to suit him. In what way it suited him? Did his younger child live with you full-time?