MSE News: Child support arrears could be added to credit files

FBaby

Its perfectly justifiable!!! You are now the NRP! so you don't want to pay, the same as he didn't pay! How does that make you any better of a person!

I expect the issue is that mother1996 would have no issue paying her daughter directly and that what makes her want to scream is that it will be going to him.

mother1996, did you discuss this with your daughter? I would think she is old enough to be told of the situation. You must have been an fantastic mum that despite it all, she still wants a relationship with her dad, but surely he is accountable to her to the fact that he didn't give her a thought in helping her financially until now.

I really can't believe that having contributed nothing for so many years, he now has no qualms asking for some money despite having a good job. How does he justify it to your daughter?

caliew

I have tried off and on for over 13 years to get my now 17 year old sons maintenance payments and with no luck, I think I got about £4 per week about 12 years ago for about a year then it stopped when he moved out of the region and nothing since!. My ex husband is going around with a title of Lord, he is constantly tweeting about his assets such as his Porsche, his Range rover, his large house, horses, playing polo and what a successful businessman he is, he is slating me on his own personal website (calling me a cheating wife - when he doesn't even know me!) I helped him to set up his web company when we were in our late teens and into our early twenties, until today I have just got on with it and it upsets me so much as our son has moderate learning difficulties I have had to cope with all of that on my own, go through transitions of putting him in a special school when mainstream wasn't working. Worked 12 hour shifts, bought a roof over our heads, educated and funded myself on a uni degree to provide a better life for my son and provided my son with much needed transport single-handedly, not to mention all other general day to day costs over the years. I have a kind partner now who helps me out but I do not expect anything from my partner when it should be my sons dad contributing. And he never has, yet he leads a lavish lifestyle but the Child Support Agency have not got involved, even though I have asked them on numerous occasions for 13 years. They asked me "Do you think your ex husband could be living beyond his means?" But I cannot answer that question it is up to them to investigate if he is living beyond his means or if he isn't?. My son is trying his best to get on with life and I am so proud of him, yet he gets upset when he sees his real dad parading around on social media about what a good father he is to his other 2 sons, yet he has never paid or provided for his firstborn. My son seen him a couple of years ago and came back and said "dads got a Jacuzzi, sports cars, big house, horses etc. etc." after he had showed off his lifestyle and found out about his sons learning disabilities he did not want to know him again and still does not! My son expects me to have the same lifestyle as his dad which I cannot do as I am sensible and not showy! and my son cannot understand why if his dad has so much why he has not gave him anything over the years?, Its horrible Christmas, Birthdays, Easter nothing from his dad! again I cannot answer my sons questions why his dad has never provided? what ever went wrong in our relationship is not my sons fault and I keep telling him that and reassuring him? I don't know how long my son will not be able to work due to his disabilities but he is doing his best by learning to ride a motorbike (which I have saved for since he was 4 and trying to set up in photography whilst going to college) Should I bother again and try the CSA I don't know as 13 years off and on what is the point?

indesisiv

Sounds like a good idea till you realise how useless they are. If they did this i fully expect random people to have their credit file trashed by incompetence.